When the Original Poster (OP) and his girlfriend receive a wedding invitation, a conflict ensues over the girlfriend’s unconventional choice of attire – a jumpsuit. As tensions escalate and unexpected news involving OP’s ex-girlfriend emerges, the couple faces a challenging test of their relationship. Will they resolve their differences, or will the jumpsuit debate end their unity?
An Invitation to Celebrate
OP and his girlfriend are invited to attend a friend’s wedding, which is scheduled for August. The event is conditional due to ongoing circumstances. The girlfriend, a natural planner, immediately purchases her outfit for the special occasion.
A Surprise Package
The girlfriend’s outfit arrives, surprising OP when it turns out to be a jumpsuit. Accustomed to seeing her in dresses for such events, he’s taken aback by the unexpected choice. Despite her natural beauty and usual penchant for glamming up, she opts for this untraditional style.
Clash of Expectations
OP questions his girlfriend’s outfit, uncomfortable with the idea of her being the only woman wearing pants at the wedding. Based on his previous experiences with his large family’s weddings, this choice is out of the ordinary.
Refusal and Defense
OP confronts his girlfriend, suggesting she shouldn’t wear the jumpsuit to the event. She defends her choice, arguing the jumpsuit is comfortable and looks great. She declines OP’s offer to buy her another outfit, standing her ground.
OP’s girlfriend maintains she has the right to dress how she wants, regardless of his objections. OP accuses his girlfriend of seeking attention with her attire, interpreting her outfit as a feminist statement.
Given her liberal and feminist views, OP suspects his girlfriend is trying to defy gender norms. He argues a wedding is not the place for such a statement, with the focus meant to be on the bride and groom.
Ultimatum and Escalation
OP threatens to go to the wedding without his girlfriend if she insists on wearing the jumpsuit. The disagreement escalates into a significant argument. The girlfriend responds fiercely, asserting her autonomy and right to dress as she sees fit.
The argument reaches a peak as the girlfriend locks herself in the bedroom, leaving OP in a state of anger and frustration. He feels his perspective is being ignored, leading to a standoff. Sent to the sofa, OP seeks outside opinions on the issue.
OP’s Ex Appears
OP learns that his ex-girlfriend is also invited to the wedding. He fears judgment and comparison, especially with his current girlfriend planning to dress unconventionally. This new development intensifies the existing conflict.
OP’s ex-girlfriend has a reputation for always being impeccably dressed for events, increasing his anxiety about his girlfriend’s outfit choice. This, combined with his pre-existing discomfort about the jumpsuit, fuels the argument further. The issue becomes about more than just the outfit, but about OP’s insecurities as well.
Secrets and Revelation
OP’s girlfriend finds out about the ex-girlfriend’s attendance at the wedding. She senses OP’s hidden worries about the ex-girlfriend and becomes upset about the withheld information. This escalates the conflict further, with trust issues surfacing.
Doubts and Distrust
Trust between OP and his girlfriend is tested as she questions OP’s motives for wanting her to change her outfit. She suspects it’s not just about upholding wedding norms but also about OP’s fear of judgment from his ex-girlfriend.
Venting and Validation
OP turns to his friends for advice on how to resolve the issue. He’s seeking validation for his stance and potentially a solution to their disagreement. His friends have mixed views on the matter with no piece of helpful advice to offer.
Was The Boyfriend’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP turns to the internet for impartial judgment, posting his story online. The readers in the forum had stronger opinions on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “Wearing pants to a wedding is hardly a feminist statement. This sounds like the premise of an extremely dated sitcom. Pants and jumpsuits can be formal. You can’t control what she wears.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “You do not have veto powers over her outfit choices. And I’m not sure from what century you originate, but jumpsuits are fashionable these days.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “What century is this wedding taking place in, that the sight of a woman in trousers will give one the vapors?”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “It is a normal and completely appropriate outfit for a wedding. This is 100% a you issue if you think that somehow everyone will be staring goggle-eyed at your girlfriend because she’s wearing, *gasp, an outfit with pants. This isn’t the 1950s.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.