In the dynamics of workplace relationships, OP is entangled in a bitter feud with a soon-to-be-married co-worker who disregards their professional obligations. The tension escalates as OP, grappling with the imbalance of workload, the cold shoulder, and an ungrateful attitude, decides to claim back their gifted $100 honeymoon card.
The Excluded Invitee
OP is ignored by their soon-to-be-married co-worker, who selectively invites only close friends from the office to her upcoming wedding. Struggling to maintain camaraderie, OP accepts a belated pity invite to the event.
The Shunned RSVP
After a bad breakup, OP’s loneliness prompts her to RSVP ‘yes’ for the wedding. The seemingly cordial gesture triggers a shift in their relationship dynamic, and things seem to be better temporarily.
OP decides to give the couple a $100 honeymoon gift card. These are used at the discretion of the couple. They can put it towards dinners, excursions, etc. OP feels that this will be a nice gift for them to enjoy.
An Unwelcome Departure
OP submits a two-week notice, planning to quit her job for a better opportunity in a different town. The news is met with hostility from her co-worker, who gives them the cold shoulder and adds strain to their already rocky relationship.
Not only does OP struggle with her co-worker on a relational level, but they also struggle professionally even more. The co-worker doesn’t pull her own weight at the office.
An Uneven Workload
The workload imbalance intensifies, with OP submerged in tasks while the co-worker spends her workday planning her honeymoon. The co-worker’s refusal to assist OP aggravates the situation, making her less willing to be a wedding guest.
The Silent Treatment
The co-worker maintains her cold attitude towards OP, refusing to communicate or assist her at work. OP struggles in isolation, her frustration increasing with each passing day.
The Rescinded Invitation
OP decides not to attend the wedding, given the strained relationship with the co-worker and her upcoming move. She is now facing a dilemma, however, as she wants to reclaim the $100 gift card she’d given for a honeymoon fund.
The Refund Quest
OP initiates the process to refund the gift card, hoping to recover her money without informing the co-worker. She’s uncertain whether the co-worker is aware of her gift, adding a new layer to the situation.
When OP asks for advice online on whether or not she is right for this, OP is deemed the antagonist for attempting to retract her gift. She grapples with feelings of guilt and doubt, unsure if they’ve made the right decision.
The Unattainable Refund
OP learns from the gift card company that the co-worker and her fiancé have already accepted the gift, complicating the refund process. She’s left contemplating whether they should directly contact the couple to discuss the refund.
The Untold Gratitude
Despite accepting the gift, the co-worker never expresses gratitude to OP, adding insult to injury. This triggers a new wave of resentment in OP, who now feels underappreciated and taken for granted.
Cutting Her Losses
Even though she has no way to get her money back, OP is relieved to know that she will no longer be in the same environment as this co-worker. $100 now seems like a small price to pay to avoid her forever.
Was Wanting To Get Back The Gift She Gave For A Wedding Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “You made the mistake of giving your gift early, a choice that was entirely yours, and now that you’re leaving and like her less, you want to take it back? Sorry your bed, lie in it.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “I hate incompetent employees. Hate them with a burning passion. Do. Your. Job. Wedding planning on the company’s dime? NO.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “You can’t take back a gift. Completely different story if you hadn’t given it to her yet.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “Let her know she can’t treat people poorly and get a gift from them for the honor.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.