In the midst of planning her wedding, the Original Poster (OP) attempts to extend an olive branch to her soon-to-be mother-in-law, only to find herself embroiled in a series of escalating conflicts involving the mother-in-law and her boyfriend’s spoiled teenage daughter, Emily. Tensions climax during a disastrous wedding dress shopping trip, where etiquette breaches and bitter accusations threaten to tear the family apart. As the wedding approaches, OP must navigate this family minefield, leaving readers wondering if harmony can ever be restored.
An Uncomfortable Invitation
OP invites her future mother-in-law (MIL) to go wedding dress shopping to mend their strained relationship. The MIL accepts but requests to bring along her boyfriend’s 15-year-old daughter, Emily. OP concedes, suspecting that the MIL’s anxiety around her family might be driving this request.
Emily’s Excessive Extravagance
Emily is introduced as a spoiled child due to her parents competing for her affection through extravagant gifts and experiences. OP learns of Emily’s three-part Sweet 16 birthday celebration, set to occur the same month as OP’s wedding. The degree of Emily’s spoiling raises eyebrows, but OP decides to stay out of it.
A Day Out Together
OP plans a day of lunch and wedding dress shopping, which starts off well enough. However, an initial worry surfaces when Emily demands a sip of her MIL’s champagne, causing concern over potential liability issues. Despite this, the MIL dismisses OP’s concerns, stating that Emily has been sipping alcohol since she was 12.
An Uninvited Try-on
The day takes a turn when Emily finds a dress she loves for her upcoming birthday party in the wedding boutique. The MIL encourages Emily to try it on, much to OP’s annoyance, as she feels this was not the purpose of the event. The tension in the room begins to increase.
A Clash of Etiquette
OP’s mother addresses the MIL about Emily’s behavior, labeling it as bad etiquette. The MIL is surprised, but OP gives her the benefit of the doubt due to her known social obliviousness. As the adult conversation continues, Emily hears, defends her actions, and accuses the group of being overbearing.
Emily’s Bold Accusation
Emily further agitates the situation by claiming the strained relationship between OP and the MIL is due to OP’s nitpicking and that trying on a dress was hardly a crime. This accusation hits a nerve with OP, who feels this crosses a line.
A Burst of Frustration
OP snaps at Emily, exclaiming that she doesn’t understand the importance of a wedding compared to a birthday party. She states that birthdays come every year and are not as special. Emily retorts, calling OP’s choice of dresses “basic” and criticizing her inability to share the spotlight.
The Dramatic Exit
Finally, the MIL, after hearing the heated exchange, decides they should leave. She pays for Emily’s dress and storms out of the boutique with Emily, leaving OP and her family stunned. The fun-filled day has now ended in utter disaster.
After the incident, the MIL’s boyfriend blames OP for causing unnecessary drama, criticizes her for arguing with Emily, and accuses her of being mean to the MIL. This additional conflict exacerbates the already strained relationship between OP and her future in-laws.
A Strained Engagement
The fallout from the dress shopping incident strains OP’s relationship with her future in-laws even further. The accusations from the MIL’s boyfriend continue to fester, and OP feels increasingly isolated. Her dream of a peaceful wedding seems to be fading fast.
Emily continues to be a thorn in OP’s side, causing further disputes and clashes between the two families. She repeatedly taunts OP about the incident at the boutique, adding fuel to the fire. Emily’s unchecked behavior exacerbates the situation.
The Silent Treatment
The MIL gives OP the silent treatment. This passive-aggressive behavior continues for a while, with OP feeling the brunt of the MIL’s resentment. The peace and family unity OP desires seem far from reach.
The Failed Olive Branch
OP attempts another peace offering by inviting the MIL and Emily to the bridal shower. However, the invite is coldly declined. The failed attempt at reconciliation leaves OP feeling dejected and hopeless.
The Sweet 16 Showdown
Emily’s extravagant Sweet 16 birthday party takes place, with the lavish event being a stark contrast to OP’s upcoming, stress-filled wedding. Emily takes this opportunity to flaunt her party’s success and further belittle OP’s wedding plans.
Was The Bride-To-Be’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “Her birthday is more important to her than your wedding. Why are you arguing with a child because they are excited about their birthday compared to your wedding when it sounds like she barely even knows you.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Fighting with a child because you lost a bit of spotlight and telling her that her sweet 16 isn’t important? Maybe birthdays aren’t important to you, but her birthday has nothing to do with your wedding, and there’s no need to compare.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “You know she’s spoiled, and her family enables it to the max. Your wedding dress shopping is important, but 16 only also comes once. Let it go.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “She got bored watching her dad’s girlfriend’s son’s fiancée try on wedding dresses and decided to try on a dress for her upcoming sweet sixteen. You got upset, berated your soon-to-be MIL about her boyfriend’s daughter trying on a dress, and told a 15-year-old that her birthday party is irrelevant and your wedding matters.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.