In an unanticipated wedding drama, the Original Poster (OP) finds herself embroiled in a bitter family dispute with her cousin, Amy, over an unusual dress code demand regarding her hair color. As Amy’s stringent wedding rules ignite a family feud, OP is faced with a harrowing ultimatum – to alter her natural appearance or be barred from the celebration. As tensions rise to a boiling point, OP contemplates a bold decision that will drastically shape the course of the family gathering.
The Colorful Wedding
Amy has planned a vibrant wedding with a blue, green, and purple theme where everyone is expected to comply with this dress code. The bridesmaids and maid of honor are no exception, and any violation of this dress code means being barred at the door. This brings in a bizarre request related to OP’s hair color, which is central to the ensuing drama.
The Hair Dispute
Contrary to Amy’s description, OP argues that her hair is not flaming red like Merida’s from “Brave” but more of a strawberry blonde shade. OP posts actual pictures to validate this, not wanting to be misconstrued. Amy’s demand for uniformity extends to those with long hair, causing discomfort and tension.
The Unreasonable Demand
Amy boldly asks anyone with hair past their waist to cut it, a demand largely ignored by the family. This request notably targets OP and their sister, despite the sister being pregnant and exempt from such demands. OP’s parents, both more ginger than OP, remain untargeted, leading to questions and frustrations.
The Fallout Begins
Amy, expecting support for her demand, shares her concerns with OP. Furthermore, she posts her questions in an online forum to see if people believe she is making a reasonable wedding request. However, the response from the online community is split, leading her to continue to attempt a negotiation with OP about her hair color. Amy’s refusal to budge on her demand sets the stage for further escalation.
The Mediation Attempt
OP’s parents step in, trying to mediate the situation with Amy. Their attempts prove futile, as Amy remains insistent on OP dyeing her hair dark brown or wearing a wig during the wedding. This stubbornness intensifies the family rift over a seemingly trivial matter.
The Apologetic Aunt
Amy’s mother, OP’s aunt, calls OP to apologize for her daughter’s behavior. She begs OP to attend the wedding despite the ongoing issue. Yet, the dread of attending an event where the bride might hold a grudge keeps OP conflicted and questioning if attending is even worth the drama.
The Security Dilemma
OP fears that on the wedding day, the wedding staff might bar her from entering the wedding due to non-compliance with Amy’s demands. This fear amplifies the stress around the event and the unresolved issue with Amy. Yet, OP insists their chosen dress does not clash with the wedding theme.
The Wig Demand
Amy specifically requests that if OP chooses to wear a wig instead of dyeing her hair, it must be a short brown bob. This oddly specific demand further intensifies the situation. It seems there’s no middle ground, only Amy’s way or no way.
OP has already bought and paid for her wedding outfit. Dropping out of the event saddens the family, but OP feels cornered by Amy’s ultimatum: dye the hair, wear a brown bob wig, or don’t attend. This rigid stance escalates the conflict, pushing OP towards a decision.
The Boycott Dilemma
OP contemplates staying home, essentially boycotting the wedding. The fear of being the bad guy in the situation troubles OP. However, the demand to change their hair color or wear a wig seems too high a price to pay.
The Trial Run
In an attempt to compromise, OP dyes a small strand of their hair to see how it would wash out after four weeks. However, OP insists the strands of hair remain stubbornly dark brown, sparking more anxiety about Amy’s demand. OP’s willingness to compromise with this trial highlights the ongoing tension.
The Rising Tensions
The drama continues to intensify, causing rifts within the family. Everyone is upset about OP’s potential withdrawal from the wedding, while Amy remains adamant about her demands. The standoff between OP and Amy deepens the family crisis.
OP decides to confront Amy directly about the situation. In this heated exchange, OP shares their feelings of exclusion and unwelcome. The face-off brings the conflict to a head, forcing Amy to face the consequences of her unreasonable demands. The ball is now in Amy’s court, with the wedding day drawing closer. OP has made her position clear: she either comes how she is or she will not attend the wedding.
The Final Decision
After the confrontation, and with no compromise made, OP finally makes her decision not to attend the wedding. This firm stance shocks the family and puts Amy in a tight spot. With OP’s decision made, the story concludes on a note of unresolved tension, awaiting Amy’s response.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “Red hair with green, blue, and purple go amazing together, and of course, she doesn’t want you to stand out. I guarantee in her eyes she thinks you’re going to outshine her, which is stupid and pathetic and very immature because at what cost?”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “Your hair is gorgeous, and you shouldn’t change it for anyone, least of all a bridezilla!”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “I’m still super confused if the length was part of the issue. Why you couldn’t just braid your hair and put it up into a graceful twist if your long hair is making the situation explode.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “You have beautiful hair, and she has no right to demand that you dye your hair. It was and still is completely unreasonable. For whatever reason, she has a grudge against you or your hair. If you can not feel comfortable and welcome, it’s better not to go.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a Reddit thread.