Caught between the unconventional demands of her sister’s wedding planning and the disapproval of her family, the Original Poster (OP) finds herself in a familial quandary. As she stands her ground, refusing to write “RSVP essays,” the climax builds with escalating tensions and high family stakes.
A Wedding in the Wings
The OP’s sister prepared for her destination wedding set for February 2022. Despite the ongoing pandemic, she’s keen on proceeding with her plans. A cloud of uncertainty looms over the wedding, casting doubt on whether it will take place at all.
The Pandemic’s Effect
Due to the pandemic, the wedding venue has been forced to slash its capacity by half. Consequently, the bride-to-be is required to reduce her guest list, a task that proves more challenging than expected. The pandemic’s impact throws the wedding planning into disarray.
The Unique Re-invite
To address the guest list issue, OP’s sister devises a unique solution: she sends out “re-invites,” requiring all confirmed guests to RSVP once again. However, this re-invitation comes with a catch – it is no ordinary RSVP. The wedding invitation process takes a peculiar turn with the sister’s unusual demand.
The Essay Challenge
OP’s sister demands that all guests submit two 250-word “essays” in response to two questions. The intention is to gauge guests’ enthusiasm and determine their place on the reduced guest list. The unique selection criteria, based on the essay responses, adds a new twist to the wedding saga.
Unrelated and Insulting
OP finds the essay questions insulting, given they’re not related to the pandemic. They are broad queries that seem designed to prompt guests into expressing their deep desire to attend the wedding. The sister’s apparent need for validation frustrates OP, straining their relationship further.
OP expresses her refusal to write the essays, adamant about not justifying her attendance at her sister’s wedding. This decision creates tension between her, her sister, and their parents. The familial discord escalates, with OP standing firm in her decision.
Threats and Ultimatums
In response to OP’s refusal, her sister issues an ultimatum: complete the RSVP correctly or lose the spot at the wedding. Meanwhile, their parents warn OP of the consequences she’ll face with the relatives if she doesn’t comply. The tension intensifies, with threats and ultimatums flying around.
OP grapples with her predicament, caught between her refusal to comply and the potential backlash from her family. She ponders the cost of her stubbornness, both emotionally and financially. The moral conundrum deepens, with OP torn between principles and family expectations.
The Uncomfortable Reality
Additionally, OP is apprehensive about the cost implications of attending the wedding, including travel, accommodation, gifts, and potential quarantine on return. OP’s discomfort over the situation grows as she contemplates the financial strain of her sister’s wedding. The prospect of attending the wedding becomes less appealing, adding yet another reason not to comply with the RSVP request.
The Unwanted Revelation
OP learns that her sister has framed the essays as “online surveys” with a mandatory word limit, making submission impossible without fulfilling the criteria. This revelation adds insult to injury, further souring OP’s perception of her sister’s wedding.
OP’s parents consider the essay requirement reasonable, even appreciating the sister’s approach as offering everyone an equal chance to attend the wedding. Their support of the sister’s unconventional method puts them at odds with OP.
The Age Factor
At 27, OP values her independence and isn’t living with her family. Her independence is a factor in her refusal to bow to family pressure. Being distant from her family’s daily influence, she has the freedom to make her own decisions, even if it leads to a family feud.
The Lone Sibling
The fact that OP’s sister is her only sibling makes the situation more emotionally charged. The familial bond and the expectation to support each other in significant life events are being tested. The sibling dynamic faces a challenge, as OP’s stubbornness threatens to create a permanent rift between the two sisters.
The Principle Stand
Despite the mounting pressure, OP remains firm in her decision not to write the essays. With the wedding still months away, OP’s decision hangs in the air, casting a shadow over the upcoming event.
What Should The Woman Do?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “This is a new one, props to your sister for inventing a whole new way to be a lunatic.”
Another responder wrote: “Wow, she’s really making people apply to a wedding? Imagine some sad dude writing a whole essay just to get wait-listed or rejected.”
A Different Perspective
A different person states, “This is a truly astounding level of narcissism. She wants you to be there, but she’s going to cut you out unless you write her an essay begging to attend? I’m surprised any of her guests are still coming.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
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