In an unexpected turn of events, the Original Poster (OP) finds herself embroiled in a payment dispute with her wedding venue a day after her nuptials. Her wedding day euphoria fizzles into frustration as she grapples with a rigid vendor. She argues with the manager about their unfathomable policy. Was she justified in her indignation?
A Promise of Joy
OP gets married at a venue located 200 miles away from home, planning most of the event virtually. The first two payments to the vendor are made smoothly and without issue, while the last payment of $15,000 is due on the wedding day. Using online banking, OP schedules the check to be delivered, trusting that all will go as planned.
A Day of Bliss
OP’s wedding unfolds beautifully, creating a day of joy and happiness. Completely unaware of the brewing conflict, she spends the next day basking in newlywed bliss with her husband. The couple is utterly oblivious to the commotion that awaits them.
The Disruptive Message
OP receives a text message from the vendor stating the check has not yet been received. After looking at her bank account, OP found that the delivery date of the check was moved to Monday. Now, OP must convince the vendor of this misunderstanding, which will prove more complicated than she expected.
OP offers to call her bank and provide the vendor with a live confirmation of the delivery date. Even as OP offers alternative payment methods, such as Venmo or Zelle, the vendor stubbornly insists on a physical check. Then they threaten to withhold OP’s belongings until the payment is received.
An Unexpected Detour
OP is forced to spend 30 minutes on the phone with her bank, stopping payment on the initial check for a $50 fee. Then, she transfers money to her mother so she can write a new one. The morning after her wedding day is spent in a frantic race against time and distance.
The Reluctant Journey
Despite the blissful celebration of her wedding the day before, OP must now drive 30 minutes to her mother’s house to collect the new check. Then, it’s another 45-minute drive to the venue to deliver it.
The Unnecessary Rush
On arrival at the venue, OP meets a different manager. He expresses gratitude for the check and informs her that checks are not cashed until Tuesday. The revelation leaves OP in a state of disbelief and annoyance.
The Unsettling Truth
OP confronts the manager. She finds it utterly illogical that she had to scramble the day after her wedding when the check wouldn’t be cashed until Tuesday anyway. The morning’s rush and anxiety were seemingly for nothing.
An Argument Ensues
Despite being utterly worn out, OP argues with the manager, trying to understand the motives behind their actions. No yelling occurs, but the atmosphere is tense as each party strives to make their point understood. The manager remains unmoved, sticking to the venue’s rules and practices.
A Question Left Unanswered
Despite understanding the vendor’s need for payment, OP can’t shake off her annoyance at having to spend the first day of her married life in such a chaotic manner. The incident remains a sour note on an otherwise blissful event.
The Lurking Doubt
While OP understands the need to ensure payment, she questions the vendor’s rigid methods and lack of empathy for her situation. She wonders whether her experience is an unfortunate one-off or a symptom of larger issues in the vendor’s business practices.
The Incomplete Resolution
Although the last payment was finally made and her personal items were returned, the situation leaves OP unsettled. The unfortunate memories from the day after her wedding will always be intertwined with her nuptials.
The Lingering Effects
The event has deeply impacted OP, casting a shadow over her post-wedding memories. It’s an unpleasant experience that she’ll always associate with her wedding, tarnishing the otherwise joyful event.
Was The Bride’s Behavior Appropriate?
Frustrated and upset, OP turns to the internet to validate her feelings. The readers in the community forum where she posts her story have a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “You had to pay the day of your wedding. They need to have the physical payment when the contract states.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “I don’t blame them for being panicked and holding on to your items because they would have no other leverage if you skipped out on the final payment. It’s the venue’s rules for only accepting a physical check – you don’t have to like it, but you do have to follow their rules and submit payment on time.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “If you have confirmation from the bank saying it delivered on Saturday, then fight them for that $50 back. They messed up.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader replied, “I’m not sure why you made this into much more of a conflict than it needed to be. Why didn’t you bring your checkbook that day if you had to pay the balance on the wedding day?”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.