When the Original Poster (OP) is on the brink of her wedding, a surprise prenuptial agreement from her affluent fiancé triggers a whirlwind of conflict. As the countdown to the big day continues, they navigate through legal complexities and unexpected revelations. Will they reach a resolution in time?
Three weeks away from her wedding, OP receives unexpected news. Her fiancé wants a prenuptial agreement. This came as a big surprise.
Plans In The Making
He has already begun consulting a legal firm, though they have never truly discussed this in depth before. This sudden twist leaves OP both surprised and anxious, given the little time left before their big day.
The Wealth Disparity
OP’s fiancé is wealthier than her, earning 2-3 times her income and owning significantly more assets. This discrepancy in wealth hasn’t been an issue in the past.
She understands his desire to safeguard his pre-marital wealth. Nonetheless, she finds herself unsettled by the implications of the agreement, especially considering their different financial situations.
The Prenuptial Proposal
Despite her understanding of the premise, OP’s unease grows as her fiancé details the terms he wants to include in the prenup. These terms, which include the exclusion of retirement accounts, spousal support, and any future business income, appear very one-sided.
A Big Threat
The proposed conditions threaten to restrict her financial security within the marriage. She is starting to get the impression that this marriage isn’t what she thought it would be.
The Business Plan
Adding to OP’s concern, her fiancé intends to incorporate his business and draw a minimal salary, effectively reducing his communal income. They plan to live off of OP’s income, which cannot be incorporated.
The Fine Print
The proposition he is considering is effectively leaving almost all of his wealth out of their shared marital pool. Therefore she would be taking care of him without him having any obligation to take care of her.
The Race Against Time
With the wedding only three weeks away, OP doubts whether there is adequate time for due diligence and negotiation on the prenuptial agreement. Her fiancé’s lawyers haven’t even presented a first draft.
One More Thing
This issue compounds the pre-existing wedding stress OP was already under. This has put a black cloud over a day that was meant to be full of celebration.
The Post-Wedding Compromise
Despite the surrounding tension, OP suggests a compromise: she is willing to sign a contract after the wedding. This alternative, she believes, would eliminate the immediate pressure and rush.
Best Of Both Worlds
This proposition represents her attempt to navigate the unexpected development while preserving their upcoming wedding. She can only hope that he isn’t trying to rush her in order for her to agree to something that would hurt her in the long run.
The Silent Response
OP’s proposal is met with silence from her fiancé. She eagerly awaited his response, hoping that he would agree to her proposal. Will this wedding happen, or will she leave before saying, ‘I do?’
Was Refusing To Sign The Prenup Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “Don’t sign anything until it’s all ironed out. If your partner is business minded and not trying to take advantage of you, they should understand where you’re coming from.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “He’s banking on you signing it just so you don’t have to postpone the wedding. DO NOT DO THIS. You need your own lawyer to look over this and propose a counter-agreement. Tell him you won’t be signing that before the wedding, and if that’s a deal breaker, so be it.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “Sign nothing. Get yourself a shark lawyer. And think long and hard about joining your life to such a manipulative, selfish man.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “These are some red flags and would lead me to reconsider the entire relationship.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.