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His Daughter Presents an Awkward Request Wedding Planning Request That Leaves the Family Astonished.

When the Original Poster (OP) unexpectedly discovers he has a daughter from a past relationship, a complex web of relationships unfolds. As OP builds a relationship with his newfound daughter, Jenny, a crucial request puts him in a predicament: Jenny wants both him, her biological father, and Jim, her stepfather, to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day.

A Message from the Past

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Eight years ago, OP received a Facebook message from a teenager inquiring if he knew her mother from his college days. The twist: she suspected that OP was her biological father. Shocked but open-minded, OP conversed with the teenager, leading to a DNA test that confirmed their biological relationship.

Meeting the Forgotten Family

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OP made contact with his newfound daughter, whom we’ll call Jenny, and her family. This included her stepdad, Jim, and mother, Tina, with whom OP had a one-night stand 25 years ago, and Jenny’s younger half-siblings. To his surprise, they were all welcoming, especially Jim, who struck OP as an exceptionally kind-hearted man.

A New Role: Biological Father

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As OP developed a relationship with Jenny, it became apparent that their bond was more comparable to that between two adults than a traditional father-daughter dynamic. Jenny referred to Jim as “dad” and OP by his first name, Matt.

The Financial Contribution

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Given his lack of other children and financial stability, OP contributed to Jenny’s college fund. Despite his monetary contributions being less substantial than those of Jim and Tina, his involvement in this aspect of her life signified his commitment.

A Proposal and a Request

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Jenny’s long-term boyfriend proposed to her, marking a significant milestone in her life. Unexpectedly, she asked OP to walk her down the aisle at her wedding, a request that was both an honor and somewhat uncomfortable for OP.

A Question of Appropriateness

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Feeling it would be unfair to take away a moment meant for Jim, the man who had raised Jenny since toddlerhood, OP expressed his concerns. He believed that while they shared DNA, the symbolic act of walking Jenny down the aisle should be reserved for her “real” dad, Jim.

A Compromise Suggested

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Jenny suggested a solution to her predicament: having both OP and Jim walk her down the aisle, one on either side. This suggestion, while seemingly ideal, raised questions about the emotional implications for Jim and the potential imbalance it could cause.

A Tough Decision

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Despite believing that Jim would likely agree to Jenny’s proposal out of sheer love for her, OP expressed his apprehensions. He feared that it would still hurt Jim’s feelings and create unnecessary tension. To OP’s dismay, Jenny accepted his response but became noticeably less cheerful during their phone conversation.

The Road to Reconciliation

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After some contemplation, OP reached out to Jenny and apologized for potentially hurting her feelings. He suggested a meeting with both him and Jim to discuss the wedding day arrangement openly, hoping to reach a solution that would satisfy everyone involved.

The Sunday Brunch Summit

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OP, Jenny, Jim, and even Jenny’s fiancé, who shares the same name as OP, whom they call ‘Other Matt,’ gathered for a Sunday brunch. Initially skirting around the subject, they eventually discussed the sensitive issue, aiming to find a suitable resolution for the wedding ceremony.

The Amicable Agreement

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The group reached a consensus after a heartfelt discussion: OP would walk Jenny into the church and hand her off to Jim, who would walk her down the aisle. This agreement appeared to honor both OP’s biological connection and Jim’s pivotal role in Jenny’s upbringing.

The Waitress’s Glare

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As their brunch extended into a prolonged lunch, their waitress grew visibly annoyed at the group’s extended stay at their table. This provided a humorous twist amidst the emotional rollercoaster. Unfazed, OP left a generous tip, marking the successful meeting as a “win.”OP felt a sense of relief and accomplishment, ready to play his part in the significant event.

Looking Forward to New Beginnings

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As the story concludes, OP is filled with anticipation and gratitude for the forthcoming wedding and these new family ties. His journey from a shocked recipient of a Facebook message to a proud biological father walking his daughter into her wedding stands testament to life’s unexpected twists and turns. He cherishes the newfound relationships and looks forward to witnessing Jenny’s new life chapter unfold.

Was Denying to Walk His Daughter Down the Aisle Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “This is your daughter’s wedding, not Jim’s. So isn’t what she wants for the day the important thing? She considers you her family, and she wants you to be part of that moment. That’s a great honor, and she probably felt extremely rejected when you said no.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote: “You’re a good guy. But if she really presses and Jim presses too, give in. I see what you’re doing, but at a certain point, you should honor their requests. Declining once is enough to pay due respect to Jim.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person states, “ I think your heart is in the right place. You don’t want to take this moment away from the man who raised her and who she thinks of as her father, but she asked you to do this.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another viewpoint on the story: “I get why your daughter would want you involved… But I think you did a really, really respectful, adult, the emotionally intelligent thing to try and give Jim the honor, as he’s done 90% of the work raising her. Honestly, props to you for this entire story, as I think you handled this whole thing with incredible grace.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a Reddit thread.

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