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She Was the Sole Breadwinner, But When Her Partner Borrowed Her Credit Card, Their Relationship Faced the Ultimate Test.

In the storm of a tumultuous relationship, the Original Poster (OP) navigates the choppy waters of financial control, trust, and disability. The escalation reaches a fever pitch when OP’s boyfriend co-opts her credit card, igniting a conflict that tests the very foundations of their partnership. Amid it all, OP must make a drastic decision that could either mend their fractured relationship or tear it apart irreparably.

A Stable Routine

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OP, a 27-year-old woman, and her 30-year-old boyfriend have been together for three and a half years. They live in an unusual situation where OP works various jobs to cover their living expenses while the boyfriend is unemployed due to health issues. OP handles all the finances, using her credit card to cover rent, bills, groceries, and other necessities.

An Unexpected Request

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Out of the blue, OP’s boyfriend asks for her credit card. She typically handles all the shopping and payments, so the request catches her off guard. He explains that he wants to purchase food, and she consents but requests the return of the card later.

An Alarming Response

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When OP’s boyfriend returns, he appears to have forgotten about the credit card. She asks for it back, and he initially jokes about not knowing what she’s referring to. Then, he announces he will keep the card to handle payments on her behalf.

Resistance and Refusal

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OP feels uncomfortable with this sudden shift in responsibility and requests her credit card back. Her boyfriend denies the request, claiming the card doesn’t have much money left on it anyway. He urges her to trust him, promising not to misuse the card.

Immediate Action

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Waking up the following day, OP immediately cancels her credit card and registers for a new one. This decision stems from her discomfort with her boyfriend’s behavior and refusal to return her card. She prioritizes her financial safety over his reassurance.

A Shocked Reaction

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The boyfriend discovers the canceled card when attempting to use it. He reacts with confusion and anger, accusing OP of being petty and mistrustful. He alleges that OP has become financially abusive, a charge that leaves her reeling.

Escalating Tensions

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Arguments about the incident continue at home. The boyfriend labels OP as paranoid and unreasonable, significantly straining their relationship. He starts to cold-shoulder her and sulk, leaving OP questioning her actions.

Deepening Conflicts

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The boyfriend has a physical disability, which limits his job opportunities, but he refuses to accept any disability benefits. He denies the reality of his condition, adding further stress to their relationship. He attributes his inability to find work to societal discrimination, blaming others for looking down on him.

Hidden History

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Revelations about the boyfriend’s past surface. He comes from a humble background and has severed ties with his family due to abandonment issues. This past has left him dependent on a few friends and OP, who shoulders most of their shared burdens.

A Lopsided Household

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OP reveals that she does 80% of the household chores due to her boyfriend’s disability. Despite his health issues, this uneven distribution of tasks intensifies their power imbalance. OP has multiple financial responsibilities, including paying rent, bills, groceries, medication, and transportation.

Regret and Guilt

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OP wrestles with guilt over her actions, wondering if she has hurt her boyfriend’s feelings. Her actions, intended to protect her financial security, have seemingly betrayed her boyfriend’s trust. This internal struggle leaves her questioning her behavior.

Increased Isolation

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As the boyfriend continues to cold-shoulder OP, she feels increasingly isolated. The tension between them grows, with each argument exacerbating the situation. The emotional divide deepens, and their relationship teeters on the brink of collapse.

Final Confrontation

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In an explosive final confrontation, OP demands a change in their living arrangement. She tells her boyfriend that he must contribute more, despite his disability. The conversation is tense and filled with anger, resentment, and hurt feelings.

Desperate Measures

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OP’s boyfriend reacts poorly to the confrontation, digging in his heels. He accuses OP of lacking empathy for his situation, further straining their relationship. This escalates their conflict, pushing them toward an inevitable decision.

Relationship Breakdown

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The continued arguments, blame game, and heightened emotions cause their relationship to break down. Trust, once the foundation of their relationship, is shattered. They find themselves at a crossroads, unable to ignore their problems any longer.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP feels unresolved and questions her decision to cancel the credit card, wondering if she is in the wrong. She posted her story online, where the readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “Your instincts were excellent, as was your decisive and immediate action. You know what he wanted was wrong. Trust yourself.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “Taking your credit card and refusing to give it back when asked is so disrespectful I could never trust him again.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “He found out you canceled it because he tried to use it despite his promised, but you’re the paranoid one, right?”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Since he isn’t working, he can get to the mail first and take the replacement card when it arrives.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.

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