She Kept Her Baby and Became a Teen Mom, But When Her Mother Refused to Play Grandma, She Took a Stand That Divided the Family.

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When the Original Poster (OP), a young mother of four, faced betrayal from her mother, her struggle for acceptance and family harmony became a battleground of emotional turmoil. The climax intensifies as OP unveils a decade-long secret of her mother’s hypocrisy and favoritism, a revelation that cracks the foundation of their strained relationship. But will this family storm lead to reconciliation, or will it only widen the chasm between mother and daughter?

Broken Promises

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OP, a then-17-year-old teenager, got pregnant and decided to stay with the baby’s father. Together, they had another child, forming a small family unit. Despite the challenges, her life took a painful turn when the father of her children decided to abandon the family.

The Unloving Grandmother

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OP’s mother reacted horribly to her teenage pregnancy, refusing to act as a grandmother to her children. She harbored an unsympathetic attitude towards her now 26-year-old daughter and her two young grandchildren, a seven-year-old girl and a nine-year-old boy. Her emotional abandonment added to the pain of OP’s already challenging circumstances.

The New Chapter

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As time passed, OP met and married a different man who had a child of his own, a four-year-old. The newly blended family welcomed another baby in January, marking a fresh start in OP’s life. Still, her mother’s icy demeanor persisted, and she treated her step-grandchild with the same indifference as her biological grandchildren.

A Secret Arrival

OP, not wanting to include her mother in this new joyous event, decided not to inform her about the birth of her new baby. She chose to share the news with the world via social media instead. The announcement came months after the birth, a fact her mother learned alongside everyone else.

The Internet Revelation

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After the social media announcement, the mother was shocked and hurt, leading to a fallout between the two. OP had personally shared the news with her father and stepmother, excluding her mother, who found out about the newborn like any other distant acquaintance. The resentment and tension between mother and daughter escalated.

Grandma on Display

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Upon unblocking her mother on social media, OP discovered a series of posts where her mother proudly claimed the title of ‘grandma.’ This newfound public affection contrasted starkly with her past indifference. Frustrated, OP commented on these posts, reminding her mother of her previous neglect.

Erasure of Truth

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When OP saw that her comments had been deleted, she responded publicly on her page. She expressed gratitude towards her real support system, her dad, stepmom, and ex-husband’s parents, and left out her mother intentionally. This was a stark declaration of the truth of their relationship.

Unacknowledged Guardians

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A few people questioned the exclusion of OP’s mother from the list of appreciative grandparents. Unfazed, OP responded by asserting that she had acknowledged everyone who deserved to be mentioned. Her assertive response created a stir in her social circle.

Mother’s Outcry

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Feeling exposed and wronged, the mother confronted OP over the phone, accusing her of being a terrible daughter. She demanded that OP take down the post, but OP stood her ground. The public dispute drew mixed opinions from friends and family.

The Unjustified Desire

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The mother only expressed interest in being a grandmother to the new baby, completely ignoring the older children. She even went as far as prohibiting the older kids from referring to her as ‘grandma,’ stating it made her feel old. Her biased love further strained their already damaged relationship.

The Mother’s Secret

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OP learns a long-held secret about her mother, intensifying the conflict. It turns out she had an affair just before OP got pregnant with her first child. This secret affair led to a miscarriage, causing her guilt and shame.

Unearthing the Past

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OP discovered her mother’s secret pregnancy through her mother’s old friend, who knew about the affair. The shock and revelation further deepened her resentment towards her mother. If the child had lived, she would have been the same age as OP’s oldest.

Confrontation with the Past

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OP decided to confront her mother about the secret affair and the miscarriage. The confrontation escalated their dispute, causing her mother to break down and admit her mistakes. Despite the confession, the mother refused to acknowledge her past faults toward her grandchildren.

Was The Mother’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posted her story online for feedback and support. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “If she’s not willing to have a relationship with all your kids, don’t let her near any of them, she sounds like a bit of a nightmare.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “Grandparents who think they can selectively choose when to be grandparents don’t deserve the title. Keep her blocked, and don’t post pics of the little one online because she will find a way to steal them and put them on her social media.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “After reading how she’s ‘loving’ being a grandmother to a child she has never met after spending the last decade ignoring your oldest children completely. That would have sent me over the edge, too.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Being family doesn’t give her the right to decide when to act like family. I’d tell her she can be a grandma to all your kids or none of them.”