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When His Parents Insisted on Their Son Paying Rent, He Packed His Belongs and Left Them to Face a Life Without Him.

The Original Poster (OP), a 23-year-old part-time worker and full-time student, grapples with the decision to pursue his independence. His journey towards self-reliance sends ripples through his family dynamics, culminating in a drastic shift in their household.

A Domestic Maestro

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OP, a 23-year-old full-time student, and part-time worker, acts as the pillar for a family of five siblings. With parents working full hours, OP takes over household responsibilities like grocery shopping, meal prepping, laundry, and coordinating the chores for younger siblings. Amidst these duties, OP manages to save enough from his job to fund his education and some personal needs.

The PlayStation Saga

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OP treats himself to a gaming system, the PS5, a luxury he keeps exclusively for his own use, while the rest of the family continues using a shared PS4. This new acquisition becomes the source of resentment from OP’s oldest brother, sparking tensions in the familial dynamics. OP’s decision to keep his PS5 private signals a growing desire for personal space and autonomy.

The Complaint and The Confrontation

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OP’s parents receive complaints from his oldest brother about OP’s earnings and his reluctance to share his possessions. In a family meeting, OP’s contributions to the household are overlooked, and his parents demand he start paying for rent with a portion of his wages. OP recalls, “They told me how much they expected from me.”

The Calculation and The Revelation

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After the heated discussion, OP retreats to his room and starts crunching numbers. He realizes that if he meets his parents’ financial expectations, he’ll be left with a meager $800 per month. This realization triggers a new perspective on his current situation, contemplating a significant life change.

The Decision

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OP decides to adjust his academic schedule, moving towards full-time employment and a lighter class load. This decision implies an additional year in school but promises more free time and disposable income.

The Exodus

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Without warning, OP packs up his belongings and moves out, leaving behind the demanding household duties. His departure marks a significant shift in his life, trading familial responsibilities for independence.

The Fledgling Bachelor

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With newfound freedom and privacy, OP explores the dating scene, admitting to going “a little overboard on Tinder.” His parents’ house had never been an option for inviting dates over, but now, living alone, OP enjoys the liberty of adult dating.

The Fresh Start

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OP moves into his new apartment, planning to remain a part-time student until the semester’s end. His strategy of balancing work and school symbolizes his commitment to independence and self-reliance.

The Fallout

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Back at OP’s family home, the ripple effects of his departure are felt. OP’s oldest brother inherits the lion’s share of household chores, causing resentment among the siblings. The comfortable home dynamics have been disrupted, and OP’s absence is keenly felt.

The Family Backlash

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OP’s parents are displeased with his abrupt departure, feeling abandoned. Similarly, his siblings express their anger over the increased workload. OP’s oldest brother is particularly bitter, now having less free time and more chores.

The New Life

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Meanwhile, OP is relishing his newfound freedom and leisure time. He even celebrates his independence by purchasing a plant from IKEA, symbolizing his fresh start.

The Pangs of Guilt

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Despite relishing his newfound independence, OP experiences a sense of guilt for leaving his family in a challenging situation. He admits, “I feel bad for screwing them all over,” indicating a lingering sense of responsibility and affection for his family. However, he rationalizes his departure, realizing that it made no sense to bear the brunt of the housework while also contributing rent.

The Unraveled Family Dynamics

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Back home, the family struggles to cope with the additional workload and the absence of OP. The oldest brother, now burdened with OP’s former responsibilities, feels the pinch of having no free time and being unable to have his girlfriend over.

The Lingering Resentment

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OP’s family continues to harbor resentment toward him for his abrupt departure. His siblings remain angry about their increased chores, and his parents are upset about being left in the lurch. OP’s decision to prioritize his needs over the family has created a lasting rift.

The Unapologetic Independence

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Despite the guilt and the family’s resentment, OP remains steadfast in his decision. He finds solace in his new life – one where his hard work directly benefits him.

Was The Man’s Decision Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responded

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One reader said, “If you ‘left them in the lurch,’ that should be a flashing sign of how much you were contributing.”

Another Viewpoint

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Another responder wrote: “I know that all parents are different and have different plans on how they can or want to support their children. Some start rent right at 18 or high school graduation, some pay for all expenses through college. Many of us are somewhere in between.”

A Different Perspective

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A different person states, “They brought this on themselves, especially your oldest brother.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

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