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Couple Insists on a White Tie Wedding, But Their Strict Dress Code Ignites a Family Rebellion That Leaves Guests in Disarray.

In a highly anticipated wedding, the Original Poster (OP) and his fiancée found themselves at the epicenter of a family controversy arising from their stringent white tie dress code. As resentment brewed and harsh criticism poured in, the couple was determined to stand firm, escalating tensions among friends and family.

The Engagement

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OP, a 29-year-old man, and his partner, a 24-year-old female, were all set for their wedding in September. Their meticulous planning seemed to be paying off, and the wedding was set to be a beautiful affair. However, trouble starts to brew as guests learn of the strict dress code for their wedding day.

Setting the Dress Code

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The couple decided that their wedding would be a ‘white tie event and communicated this to all the invitees. They made it clear from the beginning that the dress code would be enforced strictly, with no exceptions for unnatural hair dye, visible tattoos, or piercings. However, this was a decision that was soon to stir some discord.

Hiring the Photographer

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To make their day even more memorable, they hired a highly sought-after photographer after weeks of research and collecting recommendations. The couple placed a lot of emphasis on this aspect, showing their commitment to making the day and the memories as perfect as possible. However, they didn’t expect this investment to potentially create issues with their guests.

Reinforcing the Rules

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The couple sent out reminders of the dress code to all their guests. They informed their invitees that they were free to decline the invitation if they were not comfortable with the stringent dress code rules. This seemed like a fair move at the time, but it was about to be tested.

The Dress Code Rebellion

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A photo posted by one of their mothers showcasing a cocktail dress she intended to wear to the wedding sparked a controversy. As it clearly violated their white tie rule, they immediately informed her of its inappropriateness. Little did they know, this was just the beginning of their troubles.

The Shoe Incident

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Adding fuel to the fire, a family friend asked if she could wear flat shoes after the ceremony. Once again, the couple pointed to their ‘white tie’ instructions, unknowingly opening a can of worms. This led to an unforeseen upheaval among several of the attendees.

Rising Discontent

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Disgruntlement started spreading among families and friends on social media over the strict dress code. Various relatives and friends began messaging the couple, requesting a relaxation in the rules. Unyielding, the couple stuck to their policy, pointing out that acceptance of the invitation equaled compliance with the rules.

The Formality Feud

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OP and his fiancée insisted on maintaining the formal ambiance of their event. They felt that the casual dresses and suits would look out of place at their meticulously planned wedding. This insistence, however, was causing more harm than good.

Reciprocal Expectations

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They justified their stringent dress code by stating that they had always respected the wishes of the marrying couple at other weddings. They felt they deserved the same treatment, not realizing that their unyielding stance was creating a rift. As the backlash grew, their perfectly planned wedding began to look less perfect.

The Accusations

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Despite their good intentions, the couple was faced with harsh criticism from those around them. They were called out for their seemingly selfish behavior, putting their wishes above the comfort of their guests. Their insistence on the dress code seemed to be straining relationships even before the wedding.

The Misinterpretation

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The term ‘bridezilla’ started being thrown around, pointing to the woman in the relationship as the instigator of the dress code drama. OP took to social media to clarify that both he and his fiancée agreed on the dress code enforcement, but he was the one who made the public post.

The Unraveling of Relationships

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Their decision to prioritize their preference over their guests’ comfort strained many relationships. The couple found themselves at the receiving end of harsh criticism and ill feelings from their loved ones. The consequences of their decision not only tarnished the anticipation of their special day but also put their relationship with their close ones to the test.

The Wedding Day

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On the day of the wedding, the tension was palpable. Guests adhered to the dress code, but the underlying resentment from the pre-wedding drama lingered. The couple had achieved the formal wedding they had envisaged but at the cost of strained relationships and a touch of bitterness hanging over their special day.

Was The Couple’s Behavior Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responded

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One reader said, “I suggest you hire people to attend your wedding so you can make sure they all adhere to your dress code.”

Another Viewpoint

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Another responder wrote: “If all you care about is nice pictures, then hire models. That way, they’ll look exactly how you want them to look, and they won’t complain. If you want an actual party with real people, you need flexibility.”

A Different Perspective

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A different person states, “This should be an occasion to celebrate with your nearest and dearest. You are making it all about the look.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

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