When the Original Poster (OP) stepped in to adopt her older sister’s child, Lucy, she embraced the challenges of motherhood. Yet, as OP’s life evolved and the idea of expanding her family emerged, tensions between the sisters reached boiling point during an unexpected sabotage.
A Fateful Request
Eight years ago, OP’s sister became pregnant and uncertain about raising the child. She approached OP and her then-husband with a proposition: to adopt her unborn child. While apprehensive about potential complications, they agreed after her sister’s assurances. However, before baby Lucy turned one, OP’s husband left them due to a deceit about Lucy’s paternity.
By the time Lucy was four, OP met a wonderful woman who would later become her wife. As the three of them built their life together, OP’s sister felt reassured in her choice to let OP adopt Lucy. The bond between OP, her wife, and Lucy grew stronger with each passing day.
OP and her ex-husband had always dreamed of a bigger family, a sentiment that OP’s sister had initially agreed with. Now, as OP and her wife explore their options to expand their family, OP’s sister begins to voice her objections.
After facing personal challenges, OP’s sister moves in with them in July, needing a place to stay. Yet, as the days turn into weeks, her presence adds strain to the household.
An Intrusive Question
OP’s sister continuously probes young Lucy about her desire for siblings, insinuating concerns about OP and her wife’s capability to cater to Lucy’s needs should they have more children. Lucy, however, remains firm in her desire for siblings.
A Critical Consultation
OP and her wife scheduled an online consultation with a fertility clinic, looking into sperm donation options. Entrusting OP’s sister to watch over Lucy, they hoped for a smooth session.
Their session faced constant disruptions due to erratic WiFi behavior. After the third dropout, OP’s wife discovered OP’s sister meddling with the power cord, with Lucy trying to fix the situation.
Unmasking the Saboteur
Upon confronting her sister, the truth comes out. OP’s sister admits to deliberately sabotaging their consultation, revealing her intense desire for Lucy to remain an only child.
Words are exchanged, and OP’s sister sarcastically lays claim over Lucy, leading OP to decisively ask her sister to leave. She went so far as to refer to her as her own child.
A Drive to Separation
Unable to stand the tension, OP’s wife drives the sister to their parents’ house. This act solidifies the rift that has been growing between the two sisters and sends a clear message that this behavior is unacceptable.
Regrets and Apologies
Hours after the explosive confrontation, OP’s sister, full of remorse, reaches out to apologize. But the damage has been done, and the trust is shattered.
OP’s parents, caught in the crossfire, urge OP to reconcile with her sister and invite her back. The reasons are practical as much as they are emotional: without a vehicle, OP’s sister struggles to reach her workplace.
A Studio Lost
While staying with OP, the sister had her personal space – a studio behind the house. Now, she finds herself confined to her childhood room, a stark contrast to her previous living situation.
The future for OP’s family remains uncertain. With unresolved tensions, unspoken emotions, and a desire for a bigger family, they must navigate the complexities of their intertwined lives.
Was Kicking Out Her Sister Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “ It is clear she shouldn’t move back in. She clearly still sees Lucy as “her” daughter, with you and your wife as the caretakers rather than her parents. She seems to think she has an equal voice as to the number of kids in your family when she has no voice at all.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “It’s not a family’s personal obligation to take on the problems of other members. Your sister and parents have shown themselves to be selfish and manipulative. Keep them all at arm’s length and protect your mental health.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “She’s interfering in things that are none of her business and trying to control your lives when she can barely manage her own life.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “ Your sister can’t decide when she wants to parent and when she doesn’t. It’s not an on/off switch. When you adopted Lucy, Lucy became YOUR DAUGHTER, no ifs, ands or buts.”