The Requirements to Attend Her Sister’s Wedding Could Tear Her Family Apart.

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The Original Poster (OP), a 19-year-old with vibrant green hair, faces a decision when her older sister insists she must dye her hair a “natural” color to attend her upcoming November wedding. Caught between her own identity and family expectations, OP offers compromises that are systematically rejected. As tensions escalate, OP must decide between her self-expression and her family’s wishes, leading to a climactic decision that leaves everyone on edge.

The Wedding Invitation

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OP gets a call from her older sister, who is getting married in November. The sister is excited but makes an unusual request. She asks OP to change her signature green hair color to something less “distracting” for the wedding.

The Sister’s Ultimatum

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OP’s sister specifies that she would like OP to dye her hair either black or dark brown to match their natural hair color. The sister gives an ultimatum: change the hair color or don’t attend the wedding.

The Refusal

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OP, unwilling to give up her green hair, refuses to comply with her sister’s request. She explains that dying her hair to a dark color would make it difficult to return to her preferred green shade. She doesn’t want a one-time event to ruin her hair.

The Counteroffer

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OP suggests a compromise by offering to dye her hair blonde, a lighter color that would be easier to change back. OP is baffled when her sister rejects the idea, stating that blonde is also not a “natural” color for her.

The Odd Double Standards

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OP is confused and frustrated by her sister’s insistence on “natural” colors when other guests, including their own mother, have dyed hair. Their mother, for example, sports a dark purple color.

Family Backlash

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OP’s parents take her sister’s side as they usually do and express their disappointment in her. They accuse their daughter of being disrespectful for not agreeing to change her hair color for the wedding. Meanwhile, OP believes her family is being disrespectful toward her.

Messages from the Fiancé

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OP starts receiving texts from her sister’s fiancé, who echoes the sentiment that she’s being disrespectful. He urges her to dye her hair in favor of her sister’s wishes for this one event to put an end to the controversy.

The Wig Option

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Looking for an alternative, OP considers the possibility of wearing a wig to the wedding. She presents this as a potential solution to her sister. OP’s sister shoots down the wig idea, leaving OP with no room for compromise.

OP’s Resignation

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Frustrated by the rigidity of her sister and family, OP decides she’s had enough. She concludes that she will not be attending the wedding. OP posts a small update on her situation, confirming her decision, stating bluntly, “I don’t care anymore.”

No More Negotiations

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Having tried multiple avenues to find a compromise, OP finally shuts down any further discussions or negotiations. She is firm in her decision to maintain her green hair and miss the wedding.

The Family Dynamic

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The family remains divided over the issue, with OP’s parents and her sister’s fiancé clearly aligned against her. As the November wedding date draws closer, OP remains resolute in her decision and does not make any more efforts to negotiate with her sister or family.

The Wedding Preparations

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OP’s sister continues with the wedding preparations without her younger sibling. The wedding plans proceed, though they are now marred by the absence of one family member over the hair dispute.

A Closed Chapter

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As the situation appears to reach a stalemate, both sides have made their positions abundantly clear. OP is not attending the wedding, and her green hair remains a symbol of her refusal to conform for conformity’s sake.

Was The Sister’s Behavior Appropriate?

OP is angry that her sister chose the aesthetics of her wedding over her attendance. She posts her story online for feedback and validation. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “Heck, people know you for who you are, and that includes your hair color. As a result, if you showed up with a wildly conventional hair color, that would draw a lot of attention. That’s precisely what she says she fears.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “I’m tired of this ‘it’s my wedding, so I can make any demand I want, and I must be obeyed!’ Ask if she can buy you a wig. If this isn’t good enough, enjoy not attending the wedding.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “You’d have to change your hair color/appearance for a wedding that is one day. Your family sounds like a bunch of hypocrites. Pretty accommodating of you to offer to dye it blonde for the day.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Wait, dye your hair just to ATTEND? Not you can’t be a bridesmaid, but you can’t even be at the wedding? Dye your hair blonde and crash the wedding.”