In an unexpected turn of communal discord, the Original Poster (OP) finds themselves in a heated dispute over shared community pool use, igniting tensions between OP, a dog owner, and other condo residents.
The Community Pool
OP lives in a condo adjacent to a shared community pool. He often observes residents taking a dip and enjoying the hot summer days. It is an oasis for OP and his children.
New Group In Town
One day, OP spots a new group of people around the pool, allowing their fully grown Lab to retrieve tennis balls from the pool. OP is taken aback by the act, considering it inconsiderate due to the shared nature of the pool.
The Lab’s owner notices OP watching and apologizes unprompted. To OP, this showed them admitting fault and noticing that what they were doing was inappropriate.
OP takes the opportunity to express dissatisfaction over the dog’s presence in the shared pool. However, the conversation quickly spirals into an argument between them.
In response, the owner accuses OP’s kids of peeing in the pool, offended by their presence. The owner doesn’t have any evidence, but he’s assuming they do based on their young age. This charge leaves OP frustrated and defensive.
Could Have Been Avoided
If the pool-goers hadn’t mentioned anything in the first place, OP probably would have just observed and not gotten involved. Because the pool attendees apologized, OP felt like he could express his feelings openly.
OP pointed out that his children likely wouldn’t pee in the pool. However, a large labrador retriever would certainly get hair and dirt in the pool and possibly pee as well. It didn’t seem like a fair argument and was completely out of line.
Retrospection and Doubt
Feeling guilty for the heated exchange, OP questions his actions. Wondering if he was out of line, OP seeks validation of his stance. Is it unreasonable to be upset about a dog in a shared community pool? He asks for an online forum.
A Matter Of Hygiene
One of the people’s biggest arguments against this was hygiene. Dogs carry a lot of fecal matter, dirt, etc., on their fur. They also cannot control their bowels the way humans can. They can contaminate the water for humans enjoying the pool.
Another user mentioned the issue of fur clogging up the pool filters and damaging the pool. They even said that at their community pool, there is a day at the end of the season when dogs can come and swim before there is a deep clean. This seemed like a fun suggestion to OP and something he wished he could have proposed to his neighbor.
Others mentioned the unpredictability of animals. A labrador can be the sweetest dog in the world, but you never know how they are going to react in a new situation. This further validated OP’s stance against doing this.
Who Is In Charge?
Because of the nature of a community pool, it often feels like residents have to police one another. Many suggested that the safer thing to do would have been to complain to the powers that be to handle the situation.
A Lot To Consider
OP is left to feel validated in his stance with his neighbor. After reflecting, he does wonder if the way he interacted with the dog owner was the best route after all.
Was Being Upset About A Dog In The Neighborhood Pool Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “I’m making an assumption that the man apologized to you unprompted because he knew it was against the rules for the dog to be in the pool. And for him to talk about your kids is rude.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “He knows darn well he’s not supposed to have his dog in the pool. He said that about your kids to deflect from his own bad behavior.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “Community pools are for humans. Not animals. If he wants his dog to swim, he needs to get a private pool and pay for the maintenance when the dog hair clogs the filters.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “Don’t get involved with irrational, inconsiderate, explosive people. If someone lacks the self-control necessary to have a conversation and goes straight to screaming, just talk to management. It’s safer.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.