The Original Poster (OP) navigates the stormy waters of family conflict when she sends her rebellious 15-year-old daughter, Rebecca, to an outdoor camp with a strict dress code. The tension reaches a peak when Rebecca defies the camp’s rules, leading to a rift between OP, her daughter, and her husband. Just as her husband begins to see the importance of the rules, they face one last hurdle: finding a compromise that could decide Rebecca’s future at the camp.
The Decision to Send Kids to Camp
OP sends her kids, including her 15-year-old daughter, Rebecca, to an outdoor camp. Every summer, OP presents a catalog of camps to the kids, who then choose the one they prefer. The experience promises to be enriching and fun.
Rebecca likes spending all day outside in the fresh air, and her younger brother agrees that it sounds like fun. He is easygoing and happy to go along with his sister’s choice of camp.
Rebecca’s Rebellious Nature
Rebecca has a history of being rebellious, especially regarding clothing. She loves breaking or bending the rules, which has led to numerous issues in the past. She enjoys the attention of making a spectacle.
The Camp’s Dress Code
The camp offers outdoor activities like rock climbing and canoeing, requiring specific attire. The dress code specifies workout clothes without strings or loose fabric. Safety is the primary concern.
The Drop-Off and the Sneaky Change
OP drops Rebecca off at the camp in her workout clothes. However, unbeknownst to OP, Rebecca smuggles in a loose-fitting dress, which she changes into as soon she arrives at the camp.
Camp’s Response to the Dress Incident
The camp authorities notice Rebecca’s inappropriate attire. They ask her to change back into her workout clothes and inform OP about the incident. They warn that if it happens again, Rebecca will be sent home.
Family Disagreement Over Dress Code
Rebecca and OP’s husband both feel that OP should contest the camp’s dress code. They accuse her of being too strict, stating that Rebecca should be allowed to wear whatever she wants. OP, however, supports the camp’s decision.
OP’s Attempt to Educate Her Husband
To settle the matter, OP sends her husband a video of the potential dangers of rock climbing in a dress. She thought it was obvious but realizes he needs a visual to understand why the dress code is essential.
Husband’s Change of Heart
After watching the video, OP’s husband acknowledges the risk of ignoring the dress code. He apologizes and aligns with OP’s stance on the issue, putting his daughter’s safety first over her freedom to choose her attire.
OP contacts the camp for alternative clothing options that Rebecca might find acceptable. The camp suggests visiting their shop, which sells compliant attire for rock climbing and outdoor sports in general.
The One-Piece Jumpsuits
The camp additionally proposes one-piece jumpsuits as an option. They believe that this might be a compromise that Rebecca could accept. The camp has clarified that this is Rebecca’s last chance, and if she violates the dress code again, she will be asked to leave.
The Shopping Expedition
OP decides to go shopping with Rebecca to buy compliant clothing. She sends Rebecca pictures of potential outfits, hoping she will find something she likes. OP anxiously awaits Rebecca’s response to the pictures.
Awaiting Rebecca’s Approval
OP hopes her daughter will approve of the new attire options so that she can continue participating in the camp activities. With her husband now convinced, OP feels relieved that he has finally come around to understanding why the dress code is important for safety.
Was The Mother’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback and validation from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “She can follow the rules that apply to everyone or suffer the consequences. This isn’t a body shaming or freedom of speech issue. It’s a safety issue.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Are you sure your daughter likes the camp? It’s possible she was intentionally dressing in a way that wouldn’t let her do the activity.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “The dress code is for safety reasons. Absolutely reasonable. Little missy needs to get over herself. She is old enough to understand the safety implications in this case.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “Rock climbing is a risky and challenging sport even when all the safeguards are in place and wearing clothing that can catch on equipment can endanger you and the ones spotting you.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.