A female college student (OP) finds herself in an unexpected dispute over public transportation seating norms when a pregnant woman boards her bus. As OP stubbornly defends her right to the non-priority seat she occupies first, a confrontation unfolds, escalating into a heated debate on disability, entitlement, and the unspoken societal rules surrounding priority seats.
An Ordinary Day
OP, a female college student in Argentina, boards a public bus from her stop, choosing a seat at the back near the door. It’s a typical day, the bus is not crowded, and everything seems as usual.
The Unexpected Passenger
A few stops later, an eight-month-pregnant woman boards the bus. Ignoring the priority seats at the front, she makes her way to OP and requests her seat.
Although the bus has now filled up, leaving no vacant seats, OP declines to give up her seat. She cites her tiredness and the fact that she boarded the bus before the woman to justify her decision.
OP doesn’t believe that being pregnant means the other woman is entitled to her spot on the bus. To her, she should have taken advantage of the priority seating, and if it was full, she should have waited for the next bus.
Taken aback by OP’s refusal, the pregnant woman mumbles an insult, calling her a jerk. OP doesn’t react, remaining firm in her decision to keep her seat.
The Other Samaritan
Eventually, someone else on the bus offers their seat to the pregnant woman. She accepts, settling down elsewhere, but the incident leaves an awkward tension hanging in the air.
The Seeds of Doubt
While OP is sure she has the right to keep her seat, she can’t shake off a sense of guilt. This feeling is further complicated by the uncertainty over whether the priority seats were occupied by those who genuinely needed them.
The Public’s Standpoint
An unexpected twist: OP realizes that many passengers on the crowded bus prefer not to sit at the front, even if they have a right to the priority seats.
The Seat at the Front
OP decides to encourage the woman to claim a seat at the front, suggesting those sitting there might not need them as much. She believes this is the best way to diffuse the situation without sacrificing her own comfort.
Misunderstanding and Judgment
Despite OP’s attempt to help, the woman, along with others on the bus, misunderstands her intentions. The atmosphere grows tense as judgmental eyes turn toward her.
An Unseen Disability
It is brought to OP’s attention that many have unseen disabilities, which would explain why many take priority seats despite appearing physically fit. This gives OP a lot to think about in terms of judging people in those seats.
When OP shares the situation on an online forum, she is expecting support but is met with backlash. The perception of need and entitlement to priority seats is a hot debate topic online.
The Journey Resumes
While the tension has diminished from the awkward bus ride, the event has left its mark on OP. She is left to think about if she was in the right or wrong in the first place. Does a pregnant woman have rights to her seat? Or is it just a matter of decency?
Was Refusing To Give Up Her Seat For A Pregnant Woman Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “She should have taken the priority seats or any other free seat. You don’t need to give up your seat in this situation.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “She didn’t ask out of convenience, laziness, or some kind of entitlement. She asked for safety.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “I suspect you will view this very differently if you ever decide to have a baby and are pregnant with swollen feet and legs.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “You’re young, you’re healthy, you’re not eight months pregnant. While there’s no legal obligation for you to give up the seat, you give up the seat. Jesus, you don’t need a law or a written contract to do a solid for someone having a worse day than you.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.