The Original Poster (OP) secures a coveted position, tutoring a wealthy family. The evening takes an unexpected turn when she brings her boyfriend to a formal dinner with her employers. As alcohol flows, he oversteps boundaries, leading to a night filled with embarrassment and difficult decisions. Will their relationship withstand the night?
The New Opportunity
OP, a 22-year-old woman, secures a job as a private tutor for a wealthy family. The role pays handsomely, alleviating her financial burdens. Eager to make a good impression, she is cautious to avoid making mistakes.
The family, showing hospitality, invites OP to a dinner. Wanting to share this experience, she informs her boyfriend about the event, and he eagerly accepts, although she warns him about the hosts’ potentially snobbish attitudes.
An Unexpected Reaction
The dinner commences positively, but OP quickly observes her boyfriend’s uncharacteristic nervousness. She becomes alarmed when he begins drinking more than his usual habit, signaling him discreetly to stop.
A Forgettable Slip
Intoxicated and uninhibited, her boyfriend openly asks if the hostess is single, a comment which the hosts find amusing. OP deflects the situation, redirecting the conversation to avoid further embarrassment.
Crossing the Line
Much to OP’s horror, her boyfriend starts disclosing intimate details about their relationship, recounting a particularly embarrassing incident from the previous week. The room falls into a deafening silence, punctuated only by his laughter.
Overwhelmed, OP apologizes to the couple and guides her drunk boyfriend to the restroom. They confront each other, with OP expressing her frustration and anger at his behavior. His sickness from overdrinking becomes evident.
The Short Goodbye
OP rejoins the hosts, explaining her boyfriend’s sudden illness and decision to leave. Although the couple doesn’t express overt distaste, OP feels the weight of the evening’s events and makes a swift exit.
Upon reaching home, still reeling from the night’s chaos, OP decides to end their living arrangement. She demands her boyfriend leave the house, unable to bear his presence any longer. She helps him pack his bags and calls him a cab.
Banished, the boyfriend seeks shelter at a friend’s house. This temporary solution becomes more permanent as he remains there, struggling to return to OP’s life. Despite the awkwardness of the dinner, he reaches out repeatedly, begging for OP’s forgiveness.
The Court of Public Opinion
Word of the event spreads to OP’s friends, who quickly weigh in on the situation. Their consensus is unexpected: they believe OP’s reaction was too severe. The friends rally behind the boyfriend, asserting he deserves someone more compassionate.
A Moral Dilemma
Conflicted, OP seeks external validation, wondering if her actions were justifiable or if she was in the wrong for her response to her boyfriend’s antics. Amidst the accusations and support, OP contemplates the sequence of events.
The Weight of Responsibility
Understanding the gravity of her role and the potential consequences of the dinner, OP feels trapped. Her desire to maintain professionalism battles with the complexity of personal relationships.
OP begins to question the foundation of her relationship with her boyfriend. His behavior at the dinner overshadowed so many good qualities he exhibited beforehand. As she seeks answers and clarity, the events of that night continue to shape her future decisions.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback and perspective from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “His behavior is unacceptable even at a dinner with your friends. With your boss, it’s unforgivable. Does he have a drinking problem?”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “I wouldn’t tolerate someone close to me sharing intimate details with anyone, let alone someone who should see me as a professional. Why would he even get drunk at this thing?”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “You’re not punishing his behavior by kicking him out and continuing to be in a relationship. He crossed a line and you dumped him.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “One of the things we’re learning about our partners while we’re dating is if they show good judgment. If they don’t, that is a valid reason to break up with them.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.