In a twist of modern dating norms, the Original Poster (OP) finds himself on an online date filled with unexpected exchanges and a sharp turn of events. From unanticipated comments about dating expectations to a controversial decision to split the dinner check, the date unfolds into a night that neither OP nor his companion saw coming.
An Unassuming Beginning
OP connects with a girl online, engaging in weeks of captivating messages that lead to an anticipated first date. They choose a location and eagerly arrange the time to meet. The stage is set for a great evening, or so they thought.
Walking Into Uncertainty
Meeting outdoors, OP and the girl navigate their way to their chosen destination. They engage in small talk, which naturally evolves into a more in-depth conversation once they settle at their table. The date seems promising.
Old Wounds Revealed
As their conversation veers toward past dating experiences, the girl opens up about her unfortunate encounters with men. The revelation sets a slightly somber tone as she explains her past dates have left her feeling used. It’s an unexpected shift, tainting the seemingly pleasant encounter.
She further surprises OP by candidly expressing her hope that he’s not expecting sexual favors just because he’s paying for the dinner. This unexpected assertion leaves OP taken aback, causing discomfort as he dismisses such implications.
An Icy Reception
Despite the abrupt shift, OP and the girl attempt to resume their conversation. However, the implications of her words linger, creating an awkwardness in the air. OP finds himself less inclined towards pursuing this relationship further.
End of the Evening
The evening continues, but the initial spark is replaced by a sense of indifference on OP’s part. When the check finally arrives, he makes a decision that will undoubtedly provoke a reaction. He hands his card to the server, requesting that the bill be split.
Surprised and Unprepared
The girl is caught off guard by OP’s decision to split the check, a direct contradiction to traditional dating norms. Struggling to hide her surprise, she asks the server for a moment and reaches into her bag. A sharp silence replaces the previous conversation.
The Turning Point
Confronted by OP’s unexpected decision, the girl confronts him about his intentions. OP, in a sarcastic retort, suggests that just because he invited her out, it doesn’t mean he should pay for everything.
If looks could kill, OP would surely be dead. Such is the girl’s fury at his unexpected stand. Muttering under her breath, she pulls out her card, clearly disgruntled. Their earlier, casual conversation is replaced with hostility.
Parting in Anger
After the payment was taken care of, the atmosphere turned so icy that they quickly decided to leave. Both OP and the girl part ways. It is clear that there won’t be a second date.
Still puzzled by the evening’s events, OP shares the story with a friend. His actions are met with disapproval as she claims he acted wrongly, given he was the one who asked the girl out. OP finds himself defending his decision, feeling cornered and misunderstood.
Caught in a Paradox
OP stands his ground, arguing that he was merely following the girl’s advice of not expecting anything because he initiated the date. The debate only serves to deepen the confusion and discomfort he feels about the night’s events.
A Social Media Storm
The story makes its way onto social media, igniting a heated debate among users. Opinions vary drastically, with some condemning OP’s actions while others hail him for challenging traditional norms. The situation quickly spirals out of control, giving the incident an unexpected spotlight.
Was Asking His Date To Pay Half Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “You did a good job making sure she sounded entitled and stuck up, but I have zero doubts you were put off because you knew you weren’t getting lucky.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “Even if she hadn’t been rude, I don’t really see an issue with someone splitting the check if there isn’t an agreement ahead of time that one person will pay. It’s silly to just assume one person will pay.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “ I don’t think those daggers she was staring at you were because she had to pay for herself.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “I think it’s nice when the person who initiates the first date pays. It shouldn’t be expected. Sounds like she’s used to getting the up-side of dates.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.