The Original Poster (OP) is involved in an escalating conflict with her new neighbor, who consistently blocks her driveway with her car. Tensions reach a boiling point when tired of the inconvenience and disregard, OP calls a tow truck. As the vehicle is being lifted, the neighbor rushes out, screaming and begging, leading both to a moment of intense reckoning.
The New Neighbor
A new neighbor moved in next door in January. Unlike OP, the neighbor didn’t have a driveway and had to park on the street. Occasionally, she parked her car in front of OP’s driveway, blocking access.
The Initial Tolerance
When OP first noticed her driveway being blocked, she usually parked on the street and said nothing. Alternatively, OP would ask the neighbor to move her car. Fed up with repeated simple requests to move her car, she decided a more detailed conversation was in order.
Inability to Parallel Park
When confronted, the neighbor admitted she didn’t know how to park on the street. OP told her that she needed to learn how to park better because she lived in a neighborhood where that was the only option for most people and that it wasn’t her problem that she didn’t know how to parallel park.
The Parking Ticket Incident
The neighbor eventually received a parking ticket from the city for blocking OP’s driveway. After this, she stopped blocking the driveway, at least for several weeks. OP thought the debacle was behind her.
In May, the neighbor began parking in front of OP’s driveway again. An argument ensued when the neighbor refused to promise not to do it again, claiming she didn’t know how to parallel park. The goodwill between them ended that day.
The Schedule Change
By July, the neighbor had a new night job, resulting in their schedules becoming opposite. Consequently, her car consistently blocked OP’s driveway, both when OP arrived home and when she left for work.
OP’s husband is averse to confrontation and avoids it at all costs. He advised his wife to let the parking issue go because of the neighbor’s stressful new job working nights. OP disagreed but kept calm.
Calling the Police
Two weeks ago, OP got home from a bad day of work very angry and decided to do something about the parking situation. She called the police and told them someone was blocking her driveway. They said they would send out a tow truck to move the car.
The Tow Truck
When the tow truck arrived and began hoisting her car, the neighbor ran out, screaming and begging for her car not to be taken, yet OP felt no remorse. The neighbor had received a warning when she got her initial parking ticket.
A Heated Exchange
The tow truck driver informed the neighbor that retrieving her car would cost $800. The neighbor immediately hurled insults and threats at OP and her husband. However, this didn’t change OP’s stance; if anything, it strengthened her resolve.
The neighbor’s car was never seen on the street again. A few days later, the neighbor confronted OP, claiming she lost her job and couldn’t afford to pay to retrieve her car. OP said she was sorry for what happened but that it was her fault for blocking the driveway.
The Husband’s Suggestion
While OP’s husband sided with OP, he thought she was harsh for getting the neighbor’s car towed and suggested they pay the $800 retrieval fee so, at the very least, the neighbor could get a new job.
The Ethical Dilemma
OP felt torn about the situation. She had tried to be nice before, but it hadn’t worked. She didn’t want to be heartless, but she didn’t think they should pay the neighbor anything due to her inability to respect their property.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
Feeling guilty over her neighbor’s lost job, OP posts her story online for feedback and advice. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “Forking out $800 to someone who’s been rude, disrespectful, and continuously causing you inconvenience is just not normal.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Do not pay for her car to get un-impounded – you’ll be giving her a pass to continue to park in front of your driveway. She will see this as you are admitting guilt.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “You told her multiple times not to block the driveway. She received a ticket for blocking your driveway. She was eventually towed. You did the right thing.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “She had multiple warnings not only from you but also in the form of a wake-up call aka ticket and STILL insisted on doing the wrong thing? She had it coming.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.