When Original Poster (OP) and her fiancé welcome their firstborn son into the world, they find themselves at the center of a familial tug-of-war over what to name him. Bound by a seven-generation-long tradition on her fiancé’s side and a painful history on her own, OP faces mounting pressure and even financial incentives to adhere to her in-laws’ wishes.
A Bundle of Joy Arrives
OP and her fiancé are overjoyed to welcome their two-month-old son into the world. This should be a time of celebration, but a shadow looms over the occasion. Most of OP’s in-laws are refusing to see the baby due to a controversial naming decision.
The Weight of Tradition
OP’s fiancé comes from a family with a seven-generation-old tradition of naming the firstborn sons “Peter.” Since all of his cousins have had daughters, their son is the first male in this generation, making him the next candidate for the name Peter.
The Name with a Painful Past
OP has a deeply personal reason for avoiding the name Peter—it was the name of her uncle, who died tragically before she was born. The trauma still reverberates through her family, particularly affecting her father.
A Grandmother’s Final Request
OP’s grandmother had asked that no one in the family name their children Peter during her lifetime. OP’s future in-laws initially seem supportive of this request, aware of its emotional weight.
A Loss Reopens Old Wounds
OP’s grandmother passes away while she is seven months pregnant. OP and her fiancé travel for the funeral, an emotional event that complicates the naming discussion.
The Phone Call
While at the funeral, OP receives a phone call from her in-laws. They offer condolences but then pivot to the topic of naming their grandson, suggesting they reconsider naming him Peter.
A Change of Heart—or Was It?
OP’s in-laws reveal that their initial agreement to avoid the name Peter was conditional, meant only to respect the wishes of OP’s late grandmother. With her passing, they feel the condition is null.
Family Lines Drawn
OP’s family agrees that using the name Peter would not be appropriate, regardless of her grandmother’s passing. Her fiancé also supports her, but tension rises as the due date approaches.
The Final Weeks
During the last weeks of OP’s pregnancy, her in-laws continue their efforts to persuade the couple to name the baby Peter. Emotional manipulations and strained conversations echo through OP’s last weeks of pregnancy.
The Naming Decision
After the baby is born, OP and her fiancé decide to name him according to their choice, not the family tradition. This act sparks outrage among the in-laws, including accusations of selfishness.
The Family’s Justifications
Some in-laws claim they, too, had reservations about the name Peter for their own children but chose it anyway for the sake of family unity. They accuse OP and her fiancé of lacking such commitment.
The Question of Moving On
The in-laws argue that OP’s family should have moved on from the tragedy and be willing to use the name Peter. OP feels that using the name would be a betrayal of her late uncle and grandmother.
OP’s father-in-law offers a cash bribe of $1000 to change the baby’s name to Peter. The offer hangs in the air, but OP and her fiancé do not take it.
The Estrangement Begins
It’s been two months since the birth, and OP’s in-laws haven’t met the baby or visited them since she was pregnant. Their absence weighs on the new family, though her fiancé assures her he’s fine.
A Lingering Guilt
Despite her fiancé’s reassurances, OP starts to feel a sense of guilt over the unfolding family drama. The emotional toll begins to creep into their new life as parents. The name controversy has tested relationships and traditions, leaving everyone unsure of the path forward.
Was Breaking Tradition To Name Her Son What She Wanted Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “After seven generations, I think it’s time that their family moved on.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “Family name traditions are weird, and you can do whatever you want and name your baby whatever you want.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “Tell MIL that she can get a puppy and name it Peter if she cares so much.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “ It’s not their marriage and definitely not their offspring. They have no business demanding or even pressuring anything concerning your kids, not even what diaper brand you should get.”