Her Mother-In-Law Seeks Reconciliation After Years of Strife, Should She Give In or Stand Strong?
After years of enduring her mother-in-law’s (MIL) hateful words, the original poster (OP) and her children have had no contact with her. After the MIL seeks peace and reconciliation, she must decide whether to reconcile or stand firm against the mistreatment.
Toxic Words Are Said For Years
For years her mother-in-law badmouths her to the entire family. She shares a quote she recently heard from her husband that reveals the MIL’s deep disdain for the wife. “She isn’t good for you, and she’s hurting you and your kids.”
Silence Between the Couple and MIL
Her husband hasn’t spoken to his mother since May, and the wife last spoke with her in September 2021. Despite the lack of contact, the mother-in-law spends time conspiring against her. Tensions remain high, with the MIL holding a grudge against the OP.
Family Emergency Strikes
A family emergency arises, prompting the husband to travel home alone. He plans to stay with other relatives but considers reaching out to his mother to make peace. The OP supports his decision but insists that their children not be involved.
Her Husband Proposes a Truce
While her husband is away visiting his family, his mother (MIL) expresses to him a desire to make peace. She wants to have a relationship with her grandchildren. The husband tries to broker a reconciliation.
Conditions for Reconciliation
The OP stipulates that the MIL must respect her as a person, a mother, and a wife before any reconciliation can happen. The husband is upset that their children won’t meet their grandmother anytime soon. However, he understands his wife’s condition.
Solo Parenting Challenges
Another twist to the story is that the OP has been raising their three children alone since her husband has been struggling with mental health issues. She has navigated multiple challenges, including her daughter’s heart condition and her son’s speech therapy.
Supporting the Husband’s Mental Health
She has been a constant pillar for her husband through support groups, therapy sessions, and medication management. She has taken on full-time care of their children so he can focus on recovery. The MIL, however, fails to acknowledge this effort.
The Final Straw
The OP reaches her breaking point after learning of the mother-in-law’s harsh words accidentally through one of her husband’s brothers. She abandons hope for reconciliation and expresses no desire to speak to the MIL again. Her husband accuses the OP of holding grudges and being hateful.
Protecting the Children
Despite her husband’s concerns, the wife remains steadfast in her decision to keep their children away from the toxic mother-in-law. She believes it’s best for their well-being to stay away from such negativity. The husband reluctantly understands her stance.
Seeking Validation
She questions her own sanity and wonders if she’s being unreasonable. She seeks validation from others to ensure she’s making the right decision.
Is the Woman Wrong?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of the readers’ responses…
Forum Responded
One responder wrote: “Those kids are half you. If she treats you that way, I can only imagine how she would treat them. And she would probably talk bad about you to them.”
Another reader wrote: “You can’t fix this. If you allowed her access to your kids, she would eventually hurt them, too, like she’s doing and done to your husband and to you.”
Another writer responded, “You could probably save her from a burning building, and she would still hate you.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on his actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by this thread.
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