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Mother-In-Law Refuses to Use Grandson’s Name, Instead She Calls Him By the Name She Always Wanted.

In a battle of wills and names, the original poster (OP) struggles against her mother-in-law’s stubborn insistence on renaming her son, leading to a climax where OP resorts to petty tactics to prove her point. However, the resolution hangs in the balance as the family’s unity is tested.

The Ice-Cold Reception

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From the moment OP met her mother-in-law (MIL), she was met with an icy reception. The MIL had seemingly developed an intense dislike for her, calling her every derogatory name she could think of. OP said she managed to move on, ignoring the harsh insults, although she never received any apology.

A False Dawn

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When OP got pregnant, the MIL surprisingly started to act kindly, leading the OP to believe that their relationship might improve. The MIL was thrilled about the upcoming addition to the family, and for a moment, it seemed like the hatchet had been buried. However, this was just the calm before the storm.

A Name That Divides

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After the birth of OP’s son, she and her husband decided to name him Emile Alexander, a name that held significant meaning for them. The MIL, however, was not happy with this choice, despising it almost as much as she seemingly despised the OP. This was the beginning of a contentious dispute that would strain their relationship even further.

The Unwelcome Announcement

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In a shocking act of defiance, the MIL quickly announced Emile’s birth on Facebook, but she twisted the truth, introducing him as Miles. She also robbed OP of the joy of introducing her son to her social circle, marking the first instance of a deeper power struggle. OP’s husband attempted to address the situation with his mother but to little avail.

The Nickname War

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Despite being corrected, the MIL insisted on calling Emile “Miles,” arguing that it was just a nickname. However, OP and her husband saw it as an entirely different name, an insult to their chosen name. The MIL further dismissed OP’s own chosen nickname for Emile, “Em,” calling it stupid and creating an even larger rift between them.

The Rising Tensions

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With Emile starting to talk and recognizing his name, OP worried that the MIL’s continuous use of the wrong name would confuse him. She felt disrespected and worried about the impact on her son. When her husband dismissed her concerns, stating his mother could call Emile whatever she wanted, OP felt isolated and unheard.

The Power Play

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OP realized that this situation was not just about a nickname; it was a power play from the MIL to maintain control over the family. The MIL was crossing boundaries and showing a blatant lack of respect. When OP tried to communicate this to her husband, he brushed her off, leaving her feeling more frustrated and alone.

The Petty Rebellion

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In an attempt to make her husband understand her perspective, OP started calling her husband “Thomas,” a name that wasn’t his. She hoped that this petty act would help him grasp the feeling of being addressed by the wrong name. However, this only seemed to irritate him, creating further tension between them.

The Question of Ridiculousness

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OP started questioning her actions, wondering if she was being unreasonable or if her past with the MIL was clouding her judgment. She felt confused and upset, unsure if her feelings were valid or if she was overreacting. She desperately sought a way to make her husband understand her perspective.

The Emotional Exhaustion

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Tired of the MIL’s constant disrespect, OP felt defeated. The MIL seemed to act as she pleased without considering OP’s feelings or her role as Emile’s mother. This continuous dismissal of her importance in her own family’s life left her feeling disheartened and utterly drained.

The Dismissal

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The MIL had a knack for dismissing OP’s complaints, telling her not to “rock the boat” since things were ‘fine’ between them. This blatant disregard of OP’s feelings only added to her frustration. It was clear to her that the MIL was not going to change her ways, escalating the ongoing conflict.

The Need for a United Front

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OP believed that her husband should take her side and confront his mother, showing her that they were a team. She felt that her husband’s support would send a clear message to the MIL about their united front. She yearned for him to understand her struggle and validate her feelings.

The Search for Understanding

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Struggling to convey her feelings to her husband, OP wondered if there was a better way to make him understand. She felt her efforts were falling on deaf ears, as her husband seemed unresponsive to her pleas. This made her question their relationship and her place within it.

The Unresolved Conflict

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The dispute over Emile’s name remained unresolved, causing continuous tension within the family. OP felt disrespected and dismissed by both her MIL and her husband. The quest for acknowledgment and respect seemed an uphill battle, leaving her feeling increasingly isolated and weary.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responded

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One reader said, “Not ridiculous at all. My mom named me something that could be nicknamed into something that a lot of people don’t like. Think of Franky or Frank for Francis.”

Another Viewpoint

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Another responder wrote: “My baby’s daddy hates the name I gave our daughter and calls her by her middle name.”

A Different Perspective

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A different person states, “Names matter and mean so much. My family specifically asked, for each of my three kids, if there was a nickname or a shortened version of their name that we used, and if so, could THEY use it.”

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