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She’s Routinely Ignored By Her Mother-In-Law, But When Her Birthday Is Forgotten Once Again, She Has Finally Had Enough.

In a web of familial conflict, the Original Poster (OP) grapples with her overbearing Mother-In-Law (MIL), who constantly disregards her when planning family events. The drama unfolds as the MIL decides to plan her own birthday party on the OP’s actual birthday.

Unspoken Boundaries

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The OP finds herself frequently excluded from the planning of significant family events by her mother-in-law (MIL). Despite her husband’s 40th birthday, Christmas, and other notable occasions, the MIL organizes everything without consulting her. OP feels disregarded, as her MIL doesn’t consider her availability or preferences, creating tension in the family dynamics.

The Forgotten Daughter-In-Law

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OP struggles with her MIL’s consistent forgetfulness, who claims that her sole responsibility for arranging family events causes her to overlook the fact that she has a daughter-in-law. The MIL’s disregard for OP’s role within the family is a recurrent source of frustration.

The Conversation

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The OP and her MIL have a serious discussion about the issues at hand. OP expresses her feelings about being excluded from the planning process, hoping to reach a mutual understanding.

The Agreement

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Following the conversation, the MIL agrees to involve OP in future plans. It appears that progress is made, setting the stage for the possibility of improved family dynamics.

A Birthday Clash

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Despite the previous agreement, the MIL makes plans for her own birthday party without consulting OP. The tension thickens when the MIL decides to hold her party on OP’s actual birthday. This not only disregards OP’s feelings but also makes her feel disrespected and sidelined.

A Gracious Refusal

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The OP, in an attempt to assert her own boundaries, furiously declines her MIL’s birthday invitation. She says, “As this event is during my birthday, I won’t be available; thank you anyway.” However, this decision triggers offense from her MIL.

Taking Offense

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The MIL takes OP’s decision to heart and feels offended. The plot thickens as this reaction adds another layer of complexity to their strained relationship, leaving everyone in anticipation of what might happen next.

Caught in the Middle

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The MIL’s behavior constantly puts OP’s husband in a difficult position, where he feels compelled to choose between his mother and his wife. The OP feels guilty for the impact on her husband, and the conflict is taking a toll on her, and she seeks advice.

A Distant Family

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OP’s family lives far away, causing her to rely on her husband’s family for close kinship. The isolation is underscored when she reveals, “They are my only family that is close by.” Yet, they only communicate with her husband, intensifying her feelings of being left out.

The Silent Treatment

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Despite being the only close family, OP’s in-laws never make an effort to check in on her. This issue presents another difficulty OP faces, emphasizing her sense of alienation within her own family. Her plea for recognition and respect remains unheard.

Words of Wisdom

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The online community responds with an outpouring of advice, kind words, and shared experiences. The support she receives is overwhelming, and although she can’t respond to everyone, she appreciates every comment. It’s a turning point for OP, who feels acknowledged and supported in her struggle.

Gratitude Overflows

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OP publicly thanks the online community for their support, stating, “Thank you all for your advice and kind words.” The appreciation she shows creates a sense of unity within the community. She declares, “I will go ahead with my birthday plans and wish for the best.”

The Decision

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OP decides to proceed with her own birthday plans despite the clash with her MIL’s party. This chapter marks a significant turning point in the narrative, as OP finally asserts her own needs over the demands of her MIL. The tension is heightened as readers anticipate the MIL’s reaction.

A Brave Stand

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The OP prepares for the potential fallout from her decision. She holds her ground and plans to celebrate her birthday by herself as she desires, signaling a break from her previous pattern of acquiescence. The readers in the forum are left in suspense, waiting to see the consequences of OP’s brave stand.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responded

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One reader said, “I like how you straight up told her you wouldn’t be attending. I’d plan a weekend getaway with my husband. Like seriously, how old is she that she has to throw herself a birthday party.”

Another Viewpoint

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Another responder wrote: “It’s bizarre that she would plan her party on your birthday, but it sounds like you handled it correctly, so I’d just add that you could suggest having a celebratory birthday tea or dinner with her during her own birthday week.”

A Different Perspective

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A different person states, “Your husband needs to shut this down ASAP!”

What Do You Think?

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