She's Always Wished for a Stronger Bond with Her Absent Mother Until Her Mother’s Unexpected News Bring Her Back to Reality.

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In the tumultuous realm of family bonds, the Original Poster (OP) narrates a profoundly personal account of her mother’s battles with addiction and the relentless cycle of abandonment. As years pass, a surprising revelation from the mother brings their strained relationship to a heart-wrenching climax. Yet, an unexpected phone call throws everything into chaos, leaving readers poised on the edge of uncertainty.

A Broken Cycle

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OP recalls a tumultuous childhood where she constantly moved between her mother and extended family due to her mother’s struggles with addiction. OP loves her mother but is also glad she has other family members to rely on.

Safe Haven

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At age 13, OP starts living permanently with her uncles, finding stability and understanding the complexities of her mother’s situation through them. She learns about addiction and understands that her mother is vulnerable.

Distance, not Disconnect

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While living apart, OP maintains occasional contact with her recovering mother, always hoping for the best and staying updated about her life. OP’s mother is in and out of rehab and has a hard time keeping a job for any amount of time.

The Unexpected Call

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Last week, after a long time, OP’s mother called her and asked her to go out. She tried not to get too excited because she already knew what she was like, but at the same time, she was happy.

A Clean Break

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Meeting her mother for lunch at a restaurant, OP learns about the positive influence of her new boyfriend, who has eliminated all toxic connections from her mother’s life after she got out of rehab three months ago.

The Big Revelation

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During their lunch, OP’s mother drops the bombshell. She told her daughter that her boyfriend helped her but that the big motivator for her strength was that they decided to start a family. She wanted to meet OP in person to let her know she was pregnant.

The New Family

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OP’s mother explained that she needed to be better and present for the new baby, which is helping her focus on recovery. Meanwhile, OP can’t help but wonder why her mother couldn’t be those things for her.

A Painful Realization

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OP grapples with the emotional blow, feeling overshadowed and undervalued compared to her mother’s unborn child. Unable to contain her hurt, OP leaves their meeting abruptly, cutting off communication with her mother.

The Boyfriend’s Accusations

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Unexpectedly, OP gets a call from her mother’s boyfriend, who lashes out, blaming her for negatively impacting her mother’s recovery. The boyfriend reveals that OP’s mother has gone missing, intensifying the weight of the situation.

Family Tensions

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OP’s grandparents express their anger and disappointment towards her, further deepening her feelings of isolation and guilt. Despite the blame and accusations, OP’s parents stand by her, assuring her that she wasn’t in the wrong.

The Blurred Lines of Guilt

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Torn between understanding and guilt, OP grapples with whether she indeed played a role in her mother’s disappearance. Amidst the blame, the family rallies to search for the missing mother, hoping to bring her back safely.

The Mother’s Diary

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During the search, the mother’s diary is discovered, which sheds light on her internal battles and the pressure of expectations. The diary reveals her mother’s guilt over her relationship with OP and her desire to start fresh with the new baby.

Uniting for a Common Cause

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Putting differences aside, the family, including the boyfriend, unites in their search, realizing the importance of collective strength. After days of searching and emotional turmoil, the mother is finally found, paving the way for potential healing and reconciliation.

Was The Daughter’s Behavior Appropriate?

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During the search for her mother, OP felt miserable and torn about her role in the situation. She posted her story online, looking for support and understanding. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “What hindered her improvement was her choices. For years, she chose drugs over you. Now, she is choosing to have a baby, and you understandably feel she is choosing the baby over you.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “The choices she made are entirely on her. You are not responsible for her well-being. She let you down repeatedly. She continues to do so.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “Your mother is an addict and has spent years relapsing. She had an unstable motivation to keep herself clean, which is not on you. Anything could set off her relapse at any point in time. It is not your fault, and you are not responsible for your mother.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “She shouldn’t have a new kid if she’s so emotionally unstable with her addiction battle that she can’t handle the current one having their own feelings. The new one is going to have them, too.”