In a tale of dysfunctional domesticity, the Original Poster (OP) is burdened with two male roommates who won’t lift a finger for basic adult responsibilities. From unpaid bills to unkempt living spaces, her patience is tested to the brink as she juggles her job, her sanity, and the looming threat of eviction. Just when it seems like she might have a way out, a shocking emotional confession complicates matters even further.
The Unfamiliar Trio
OP moves in with two male roommates in their early 30s, whom she hasn’t known before. Immediately, it becomes apparent that the two men expect her to serve as their caretaker. She quickly finds herself playing the role of a mother/wife figure in the household.
The Monthly Bill Chase
OP has to repeatedly remind her roommates to pay their bills every month. They seem to rely on her reminders, which frustrates her. The obligation bothers her because she knows that it’s affecting her as well.
The Immaculate Mess
The roommates never participate in cleaning or maintaining the living space. OP does the cleaning and, almost instantly, her roommates dirty the area once more. It becomes a never-ending cycle of mess and clean-up.
The Cold Shower
OP goes away for a week and returns to find that there is no hot water in the apartment. Her roommates had been living without it but didn’t bother informing the landlord. This marks a new low in what OP terms “weaponized incompetence.”
The Laundry Tutorial
One roommate, in his late 20s, asks OP to teach him how to use the washer so he could do his own laundry. The request leaves her incredulous. She realizes that her roommates can learn but choose to depend on her.
Friend’s Dating Nightmares
OP’s friends share horror stories about dating equally irresponsible men who were a complete mess and expected the women in their lives to clean up after them. These accounts add to her growing frustration with men in general. She contemplates swearing off dating altogether.
The Plot to Move Out
OP starts looking for a new place to live, preferably affordable enough not to require sharing with roommates. Desperate to escape her situation, she finds a potential new home. Just as she’s about to finalize the move, her roommates promise to change their ways.
A False Dawn
After promising to change, the roommates make a half-hearted effort to share household responsibilities. But it doesn’t last long. OP is back to square one, managing everything by herself.
The Mysterious Leak
A water leak starts in the apartment, and the roommates, true to form, don’t inform the landlord. This time, however, the leak leads to a minor flood. OP contacts the landlord, who is furious about the delayed notification.
The Landlord’s Ultimatum
The landlord gives them an ultimatum: shape up or move out. He’s tired of the issues and is considering evicting all of them. This puts OP in a dire situation, as her own living arrangement is now at risk.
Job on the Line
Amidst the household chaos, OP starts facing pressure at work due to a lack of focus. Her job is now on the line, adding another level of urgency to resolving her living situation. She has to balance her career and home life.
Roommate’s Family Visit
One roommate’s family visits the apartment, and for the first time, the man seems motivated to clean and act responsibly. Despite the attempt to clean, the family is appalled by the living conditions. However, once they leave, he reverts to his old ways.
The Final Move
OP moves out to her new place. Her roommates are eventually evicted due to continuous complaints from the landlord. OP’s escape allows her to finally focus on her job and regain peace of mind, although her perspective on men remains jaded.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
Having learned a hard lesson by living with the two men, OP posts her experience online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “My ex-husband, rather than do his own laundry, would buy new socks and underwear when I went on long business trips. The washer and dryer were in our garage, and he still wouldn’t do it!”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Our standards for men are that they act like functioning adults and aren’t abusive. Despite the bar being incredibly low, many play limbo with it.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “What is extra annoying is that these types of guys can hold down a full-time job. If they can work, why can they not perform the basic activities of living?”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “I’ve spoken to gainfully employed men in their 30s who live in filth with broken furniture who told me they planned to wait for a woman partner to decorate and clean for them. They identify as progressive.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.