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She Chose a Shared House to Save Money, but When Items Suddenly Disappeared From Her Room, She Questioned the Cost of Privacy.

The Original Poster (OP), a 25-year-old woman, finds herself in a tumultuous house share when her landlord routinely violates the sanctity of her personal space, entering unannounced and dismissing her concerns. As tensions escalate, she grapples with whether to take protective measures into her own hands. As the community chimes in with opinions and advice, OP stands at a crossroads: will she act to protect her privacy or endure the invasions until she can move out?

Failure to Launch

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OP dropped out of community college at 19 and started waitressing full-time. It wasn’t long until she fell in love and moved into her boyfriend’s apartment. They shared costs, but when the relationship ended and she moved out, she had difficulty making ends meet.

New Beginnings

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At 25, OP moves into a shared house, looking forward to a fresh start after struggling to manage rent alone in an apartment she couldn’t afford. Now, living with four other guys, she hopes to have a smooth experience in her new abode.

The Roommates

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One of the roommates is her younger brother’s childhood best friend, whom she knows well and trusts. He vetted the other guys living in the house and introduced them to her so she felt comfortable around them.

The Unexpected Visitor

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All seems to go well until their landlord habitually drops in unannounced, an action that startles and discomforts OP. The house doesn’t feel as private as she expected, and she worries about his intentions.

Breach of Contract

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Upon reviewing her rental agreement, OP discovers that the landlord should provide at least 24 hours’ notice before entering the property. This revelation makes her more determined to confront the issue.

Confrontation Unfolded

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When OP raises her concerns, the landlord brushes them off, saying he’s just “in the area.” He further mentions that none of the other male tenants have voiced any complaints, implying she’s overreacting.

Crossing the Line

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Things take a turn for the worse when the landlord, on one of his unannounced visits, enters OP’s room. Discovering that her belongings and furniture have been moved and tampered with, she’s left feeling violated.

Standing Her Ground

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Hoping to set clear boundaries, OP confronts the landlord once more, asking him not to enter her room in her absence. He replied that it is his house, and he has the right to inspect it whenever he pleases.

Seeking Counsel

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Disturbed and desperate, OP discusses the situation and her concerns with her closest friends. They suggest she change the lock to her room, a potential solution to maintain her privacy. They worry that the landlord is a creep trying to spy on her.

A Temporary Measure

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While wanting to act immediately, OP realizes moving out isn’t an option until February, when her lease ends. So, she begins considering temporary solutions, like modifying the lock without notifying the landlord.

Precautions in Place

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Deciding to take some precautions, OP orders a nanny camera to monitor her room when she’s away and locks for her drawers and closet. While she chooses to keep her door lock unchanged, she’s on high alert.

Seeking Justice

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Recognizing the gravity of the situation, OP begins speaking with authorities about the landlord’s breaches. The process might be slow, but she’s determined to find a resolution. While she awaits official responses and navigates daily life, OP’s unease remains.

Safety First

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Throughout the ordeal, OP remains aware of her need for security. With precautions in place, she aims to protect herself and her belongings from any further intrusions. With February in her sights, OP eagerly awaits the day she can move out.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts her experience online for feedback and advice from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “You need a new lock and a security camera! Also, it might be wise to sweep your room to ensure there isn’t a camera already placed there without your knowledge.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “Call a lawyer immediately. Because a landlord that does this kind of thing is likely to do other, much more unsavory and illegal things to his renters.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “I am not a lawyer. You should contact your local housing authority before you do anything.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “This is a legal issue, and I would double check your contract and any agreements if you can change locks.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.

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