Young Woman's Outfit Disrupted Her Family Funeral, But Was Yelling at Her For Wearing Denim Going Too Far?

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In the wake of a somber family gathering to bid farewell to the Original Poster’s (OP’s) great-grandmother, an unexpected conflict arises, stirring the pot of family dynamics. The catalyst, a girlfriend’s inappropriate attire at a high Roman Catholic Mass, ignites a heated exchange between her and OP, casting a dark shadow over an already solemn occasion. The climax spirals, leaving the family torn between empathy and their sense of offended decorum.

The Unfortunate Loss

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OP’s great-grandmother passed away, an occasion marked by a high Roman Catholic Mass. A remarkable woman, she had lived for 103 years, her life’s story engraved in the hearts of her large, loving family.

The Pallbearer

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The funeral proceedings carried a somber tone, fitting for such a solemn event. OP’s cousin, Joseph, dressed in a respectful black suit, served as one of the pallbearers. He was accompanied by his girlfriend, Raven.

Uninvited Guests

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Raven and Joseph, both 19, lived a life of leisure in Aunt Sandy’s basement, substituting employment with video games and recreational substances. Their lifestyle was an open secret, causing a subtle stir within the family.

Inappropriate Attire

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In contrast to Joseph’s attire, Raven arrived in denim shorts and an orange and white flannel button-up, her attire wildly contrasting with the otherwise somber assembly. She seemed oblivious to her inappropriate choice of clothing, causing discomfort among the mourners.

Whispers and Glances

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Raven’s casual attire, inappropriate for the occasion, drew disapproving glances and whispers from the crowd. The departed’s children found her lack of respect particularly offensive. Tension stirred in the air, further darkening the already somber mood.

The Wake

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Following the service, the family gathered at the great-grandmother’s house for the reception. The younger generation, including OP, congregated on the back porch, seeking solace in each other’s company. The air was thick with unspoken thoughts, memories, and the odd discomfort surrounding Raven’s appearance.

An Uncomfortable Confrontation

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OP, finding herself alone with Raven, decided to address the elephant in the room. To maintain peace, OP delicately expressed that Raven’s attire was inappropriate for a Roman Catholic funeral, or any funeral for that matter.

Lack of Etiquette

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OP expressed her disbelief at Raven’s lack of awareness and Joseph’s lack of guidance on proper funeral etiquette. She said a dark pair of pants and a dark shirt would have been fine, but wearing shorts and a bright shirt is not appropriate for anyone’s funeral.

Raven’s Outburst

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Raven, confronted with OP’s gentle criticism, reacted defensively. She contested the expectation of acquiring new clothes for a single event, her tone showing clear annoyance. OP tried to clarify that the issue wasn’t about new clothes but about the overall disrespect her outfit showed on the solemn occasion.

A Quick Exit

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Feeling insulted, Raven and Joseph swiftly left the reception, leaving an uneasy hush in their wake. This abrupt exit added to the already disturbed atmosphere, leaving OP with a sense of guilt and regret. The confrontation had concluded, but the repercussions had just begun.

Unpleasant Repercussions

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Later that day, OP received a message from Joseph demanding an apology for Raven. His insistence added a new layer to the existing tension. OP was caught between maintaining family harmony and standing her ground.

The Unresolved Issue

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OP reflected on her actions and held her ground, believing she didn’t owe an apology. OP felt her approach hadn’t been disrespectful or unnecessarily harsh. The conflict remained unresolved, leaving a cloud of discord hanging over the family.

Uncertain Closure

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The feud over Raven’s behavior and Joseph’s demand for an apology from OP remained unsettled. Amid the tumultuous emotions and ongoing conflict, the family was left in a state of uneasy silence, the future of their relationships uncertain.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts her story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “You called her out and she feels embarrassed. I see no need to apologize, especially since it probably won’t be sincere.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “You weren’t rude at all, and anyone over the age of five and knows to not wear white and orange to a funeral.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “Every funeral I have been to has been dark semi-formal attire. You must understand what kind of event you’re going to.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “People judging the outfits of someone who takes the time to attend a funeral, especially a funeral for someone they aren’t related to, don’t have enough to do and should be put to work.”