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He Wants His Girlfriend to Contribute to Home Improvements, But All Bets Are Off After She Discovers the House’s Secret.

When a man, our Original Poster (OP), set out to renovate his new home, he asked his girlfriend, who was soon to move in, to help fund the transformation. Although she was willing to share the costs of living, she vehemently refused to contribute to the value-increasing renovation, triggering a conflict about shared financial responsibilities. However, when unexpected structural issues surface, escalating the renovation cost, it brings their dilemma to a head, leaving the reader on edge about the resolution.

The Grand Plan

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OP embarks on an ambitious renovation project for his new home, aiming for a luxurious transformation. With the realization that the project will be a costly endeavor, OP contemplates financial strategies. In a stroke of seemingly practical thinking, he considers seeking a contribution from his girlfriend, who is scheduled to move in with him in four months.

The Proposition

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OP proposes the idea to his girlfriend, asking if she would consider helping to fund the renovations. Despite his ability to finance the renovations alone, he feels that her contribution would be reasonable, given that she’ll be sharing the space. However, this conversation does not go as planned.

The Refusal

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His girlfriend immediately declines his proposition. She confirms her willingness to contribute to shared furniture, utilities, and even the mortgage, likening her contribution to paying rent. However, she draws a hard line at contributing to home improvements that increase the property’s value, given she has no equity in the house.

The Unexpected Reaction

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In response to his proposal, his girlfriend accuses OP of being inconsiderate. Her statement leaves him questioning his own judgment. His seemingly sensible suggestion is now seen as an ill-conceived expectation.

The Moral Dilemma

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Struck by the realization of his girlfriend’s viewpoint, OP is thrown into a whirlpool of confusion and self-doubt. He wonders if he was wrong for asking her to invest in a property that she doesn’t own.

The Staggering Revelation

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After a review by OP’s chosen construction contractor, the structural engineer reports that the house needs urgent repairs to ensure safety and habitability, which were not part of the original renovation plan. These are non-negotiable expenses, unlike the upgrades OP had envisioned. The total cost has just skyrocketed beyond OP’s original budget.

The Financial Crunch

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The sudden increase in expenditure brings about financial stress for OP. His savings are at stake, and the dream renovation is slipping away. The thought of letting go of the luxurious upgrades weighs heavily on him.

The Reluctant Reveal

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OP decides to share the unanticipated development with his girlfriend. He describes the critical structural issues, the urgent repairs needed, and the revised cost estimates. He tries to navigate the conversation without bringing up the issue of finances again.

The Understanding

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His girlfriend empathizes with the situation but remains firm in her stance. She offers emotional support and practical suggestions but does not offer financial aid. OP grapples with his dwindling options.

The Unavoidable Discussion

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The financial burden becomes overwhelming, leading OP to revisit the financial contribution discussion with his girlfriend. He emphasizes the unexpected nature of the situation and the need for additional funds. He subtly hints at the need for her help again.

The Reiteration

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Once again, she stands her ground, refusing to contribute towards the home improvements. She sympathizes with the situation but maintains her stance about not investing in a property she doesn’t own. She advises OP to consider downsizing his plans or seeking a professional financial advisor.

The Contemplation

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OP takes her advice to heart, pondering over the viability of his grand renovation plans. He deliberates over cost-cutting measures and contemplates seeking professional financial advice. He struggles with the decision to scale back his dream project.

The Hard Reality

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OP confronts the reality of the situation – he must prioritize the necessary repairs over the luxury upgrades. He calculates the cost of essential repairs, shelving the high-end renovation plans. This decision, while hard, was necessary.

Was The Boyfriend’s Behavior Appropriate?

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Disappointed with the delay of his renovations, OP posts his story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “She’s renting from you. Renters don’t pay for repairs or remodeling on someone else’s house. She should pay her agreed-upon rent, and that’s it.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “You mentioned that she looks at contributing to the mortgage as paying rent. You are asking her to help pay for renovations is the same as asking a renter to do the same on a rental.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “She’s got nothing but good points. It sounds like you invited her to move in so that you could get her to pay for the renovations.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “If you want her to pay for your increase in equity, then put her on the deed. She is 100% right and smart here.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.

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