His Mother-In-Law Is Ruining His Marriage, So Here’s What He Decided to Do
The original poster (OP) of the story, a 29-year-old man, had a series of conflicts with his mother-in-law (MIL) that threatened to ruin his marriage.
His Mother-In-Law Is Controlling
The OP introduces his mother-in-law and describes her as someone who has been controlling and manipulative throughout his relationship with her daughter. “She’s always been controlling and manipulative towards my wife, but I thought things would change once we got married.”
His Mother-In-Law Interferes with Their Wedding
The man describes an incident in which his MIL interfered with their wedding plans and refused to let them have the wedding they wanted. Because his MIL paid for the wedding, she felt entitled to throw the wedding that she thought was appropriate. “She made all the decisions about the wedding without even consulting us.”
He Moves In with His Mother-In-Law
Despite his apprehension, the couple decided to move in with her MIL. The OP and his wife ultimately decided that moving in with the MIL for two years made the most financial sense while the couple saved up for their own home.
The House Rules
The MIL set strict house rules that the man and his wife must follow, including what they can and can’t eat and drink while under her roof. “She treats us like children and expects us to follow her rules without question,” he stated.
His Wife Gets Pregnant and Has a Baby
The OP and his wife have a baby, and the Mother-in-law starts interfering with their parenting decisions. His MIL has strong opinions about feeding formula to the infant and the way they indulged the baby when she screamed during the night.
The First Fight
The man and his wife have their first big fight over the MIL’s interference. His wife defends her mother but admits she is a little overbearing.
The Second Incident
The MIL interferes with their plans to take their baby on vacation and tries to dictate where they can go and what they can do. He writes in the forum, “She’s always trying to control every aspect of our lives, and it’s driving me crazy.”
The Mother-In-Law’s Health
During their second year living at the mother-in-law’s house, the MIL’s health starts to decline. Naturally, the OP and his wife assist the MIL, and she becomes more reliant on them.
The Mother-In-Law’s Demands
The MIL starts to make more demands on the OP and his wife and plans for them to continue to care for her. The Mother-in-law knows they are preparing to leave her house and buy their own in the near future and insist they buy a larger home to accommodate her long-term.
The Mother-In-Law Makes an Ultimatum
The MIL gives the man and his wife an ultimatum: either they plan to accommodate her into their new or she will cut them out of her life and deny them her inheritance.
The Breaking Point
The OP and his wife reach their breaking point and decide they can no longer tolerate the MIL’s behavior. The man rejects the outlook of living with her full-time and insists it will cause the demise of the couple’s marriage.
The Confrontation
The couple confronts the mother-in-law and tells her how her behavior has been affecting their marriage. He resolves that he will not allow her to move into their new house, “I told her that if she wants to be a part of our lives, she needs to start respecting our boundaries.”
The Mother-In-Law’s Reaction
The MIL does not take the confrontation well and starts to blame the OP for everything that has gone wrong.
The Fallout
The fallout from the confrontation is severe, and the man and his wife decide to cut ties with the MIL. The man states, “It was a difficult decision, but we knew it was the right thing to do for our marriage.”
The Aftermath
He updates the post, stating that he and his wife are doing well and that cutting ties with the MIL was the best decision they ever made. As of his last update, they are not in contact with the MIL.
Was the Man Wrong?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of the readers’ responses…
Forum Responded
One responder wrote: “I can’t believe the audacity of the mother-in-law to demand such control over his life. It’s important to set boundaries and communicate with your partner about these issues.”
Another reader wrote: “I feel for you, but it’s important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding for both sides. Hopefully, you can find a solution that works for everyone.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
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