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She Handed Him Her Credit Card for Emergencies, But She Never Expected the $20,000 Bill From Her Partner’s Pandemic Panic Purchase.

The Original Poster (OP) and her partner are entangled in a web of health and financial dilemmas. As she grapples with health issues requiring a strict diet, her partner’s trauma-driven food hoarding during the pandemic plunges them deep into debt. The situation escalates when he’s diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes, rendering the stockpiled food largely inedible.

A Personal Struggle

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OP is a 42-year-old woman struggling with health issues that make it difficult for her to maintain her weight. She constantly hovers just above the underweight mark, and any setback in her health makes her feel even weaker. Her partner, on the other hand, battles obesity due to past trauma and binge eating habits.

Roles in the Relationship

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OP’s partner oversees grocery shopping and cooking because he despises cleaning. This arrangement has been their routine for a long time, establishing a sense of order in their shared life.

A Pandemic Panic

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At the onset of the pandemic, OP’s partner’s deep-seated trauma was triggered, leading him to fear a global food crisis. He responded by hoarding inexpensive, long-lasting food items despite the potential consequences.

The Weight of Debt

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Unknown to OP, her partner used a credit card in her name to finance the stockpiling. As a result, OP found herself submerged under an unexpected $20,000 debt, a situation made even more distressing by the fact that most of the food items her partner purchased weren’t suitable for her diet.

Health Decline

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The previous year had not been kind to OP’s partner’s health. His longtime sugar addiction led to a Type 2 Diabetes diagnosis, making much of the hoarded carbs and sweets harmful for him to consume.

Navigating New Diets

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OP tries to consume what she can from the stocked pile, but most of the food triggers her IBS. Her partner, after his diabetes diagnosis, shifted to sugar substitutes and keto recipes. However, this alternative diet is notably more expensive.

The High Cost of Preferences

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A single box of keto snack bars or sugar-free ice cream costs three times more than the standard varieties. As OP’s partner is not fond of vegetables, his diet mainly consists of steak, burgers, meatballs, and chicken.

Mounting Expenses

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OP’s partner consumes over twice the calories she does and rarely uses leftovers, leading to waste. This high caloric intake and his preference for specialty groceries result in soaring food bills.

Debt Pressure

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OP is fervently working to reduce the mounting credit card debt, fearing the accumulating interest. She recognizes that if her partner were to consume a more average caloric intake, they could allocate more money towards the debt.

Treading Lightly

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Approaching the topic of food and finances with her partner is treacherous due to his traumatic experiences surrounding these areas. OP is cautious, understanding the sensitivity of the situation.

A Troubling Question

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OP contemplates whether asking her partner to eat less and possibly lose weight would be wrong. This isn’t about attraction; she finds him attractive at any size, but it’s becoming increasingly hard for OP to financially support the amount of high-dollar grocery trips.

Health Concerns

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Cutting her own food costs isn’t an option for OP, given her medical condition. It’s crucial for her to maintain her health and not jeopardize it any further. Despite the financial and health challenges they face, OP’s love and commitment to her partner are evident.

Searching for Solutions

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OP is caught in a dilemma, seeking solutions that would balance their financial health without compromising their individual physical health or causing emotional distress. She wants the best for both of them, though the path forward is unclear.

Strained Ties

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The ongoing problems are putting a strain on their relationship. The couple must navigate these troubled waters together, finding a middle ground. They must confront their individual challenges and find ways to support each other.

Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts her story online for feedback and advice from the internet community. Hopefully, someone can shed some light on the situation and help OP find a solution. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “He bought $20,000 worth of food to store? That’s shocking. I don’t think it’s out of line to have a frank discussion with him about your budget. I would phrase it like that. He needs to be doing his part to pay down the debt that he incurred.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “I do think a serious talk with a therapist who specializes in ED mediating is in order. It is unacceptable that he put your name that deeply in debt, and I honestly think that’s the real issue.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “This sounds like a textbook case of setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Although maybe warm isn’t even correct since your money is fueling his self-destructive eating habits.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Does he have a job? Is he helping with how much he spent on YOUR card? He sounds like a little kid who won’t eat his vegetables and just wants all junk food.”

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