In this emotional rollercoaster of a relationship, the Original Poster (OP) finds himself in a quandary as his girlfriend’s growing obsession with fitness takes a dark turn, turning her sweet nature into aggression. Things reach a boiling point when her uncharacteristic anger drives him to give an ultimatum – change, or it’s over. Yet, just when it seems their love may not survive, an unexpected twist throws OP for a loop and leaves him questioning everything he thought he knew.
OP met his girlfriend four years ago at her 21st birthday party, and they have been together ever since. OP is not muscular, and his girlfriend has become curvier over time, something he appreciates. Over the last six months, she’s been working hard to maintain her physique.
Love in the Gym
OP has tried to be supportive, but his girlfriend’s gym persona is a stark contrast to her normal one. She becomes rude and aggressive, yelling at anyone who interrupts her workout. Despite OP’s love for her, this transformation is concerning.
His girlfriend’s behavior has led to multiple complaints, earning her two strikes at the gym. OP knows this because he sometimes uses her guest pass, a fact that causes further tension in their relationship. He’s witnessed her gym behavior firsthand and has tried discussing it with her.
Tensions at Home
Even after leaving the gym, the girlfriend’s temper doesn’t cool down. She becomes irritable over minor things such as dinner choices or furniture arrangements. The negativity envelops their home life, causing OP stress.
The Apology Cycle
Each day following her gym-induced outbursts, the girlfriend apologizes and acknowledges her unacceptable behavior. She blames her anger on the discomfort of overheating and sweating during her workouts. OP suggests alternatives like swimming, but she insists they aren’t the same.
A Scene at the Gym
One day, OP accompanies his girlfriend to the gym and witnesses her berate a custodian to tears. His feelings of love become overshadowed by disgust for her actions. He steps in, ending her workout prematurely, and apologizes to the custodian.
The Ride Home
On their way home, the girlfriend continues her tirade, now directing her anger toward OP. He tells her he doesn’t recognize this woman she’s become. She accuses him of not supporting her, and he retaliates, insisting that she must apologize to the gym staff and quit going.
The girlfriend accuses OP of sabotaging her progress and body-shaming her. She believes he’s doing this to boost his own self-esteem and that he has no right to dictate her actions. Hurt, OP drops her off at home and leaves to stay with his brother.
A Day of Silence
A day passes without any communication between the couple. OP knows that after a good night’s sleep, she’ll likely revert to her sweet, normal self. Yet he is firm in his decision that if she continues to attend the gym, their relationship is over.
The Unexpected Twist
Just when OP thinks he understands the situation, a new factor is introduced. He discovers that his girlfriend has been using a performance-enhancing substance known for inducing aggressive behavior.
Diving Into the Truth
As OP learns more about the substance, he realizes it could be the cause of his girlfriend’s sudden mood swings and aggression. He feels a mixture of relief and betrayal, uncertain of how to approach this newfound information. The substance not only affects his girlfriend’s physical health but also their relationship’s health.
OP confronts his girlfriend about the substance abuse. She initially denies it, causing further tension between them. But after a heated argument, she finally breaks down and admits to using the substance to enhance her gym performance.
The confession leads to an emotional fallout between OP and his girlfriend. She tries to justify her actions, arguing that she only took the substance to improve her workouts and maintain her body shape. However, OP struggles to accept her reasoning, hurt by the lies and deceit.
Relationship on the Rocks
Their relationship teeters on the brink of collapse due to the girlfriend’s aggressive behavior, substance abuse, and dishonesty. OP is uncertain if he can continue to love and trust her. The once sweet and loving woman he knew now feels like a stranger.
OP delivers an ultimatum: she must stop going to the gym, cease using the performance-enhancing substance, and seek help for her aggressive behavior. If she fails to meet these conditions, he threatens to end the relationship.
Was The Boyfriend’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts his story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “You have every right not to accept her behavior, but if you’re willing to give her a second chance, this could be a way to connect with her and support her while also holding her accountable.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “I lost almost 75 pounds over eight months and got really fit. But my personality also changed. I went from chronically depressed to very volatile. I was angry a lot, aggressive sometimes, and cried a lot, too. It was crazy! Just keep in mind that there are chemical things going on, too.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “I have known people who react this way to creatine, a very common ingredient in shakes.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “Either she is on steroids or has some brain chemical imbalance and should see a mental health professional if she can’t control her actions and emotions.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.