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Couple Excitedly Plans Their Marriage, But Parents Wildly Cut Them Off and Left Them in Sudden Havoc.

Caught in a turbulent storm of personal finance, expectations, and family obligations, the Original Poster (OP) and his wife face a pivotal turning point in their relationship. The couple confronts a looming crisis as their idyllic arrangement falters due to her dropping grades and the subsequent reduction in her parents’ financial support. Tensions reach a fever pitch as they grapple with dwindling resources, mounting household expenses, and the delicate question of whose responsibility it is to make up for the financial shortfall.

The Financial Discrepancy

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OP, a medical resident with additional income from real estate investments, finds himself in a financial dispute with his law student wife after her parents cut her monthly stipend. This money was previously awarded on the condition of her maintaining high grades in school, a condition she failed to meet recently. Now, she requests that OP compensate her for her lost funds.

The Income Streams

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OP’s income is divided into savings, household expenses, and discretionary spending. Roughly 20% goes into savings, and 40-60% covers expenses, including the nanny, food, bills, and his wife’s educational costs. The remaining sum is split unevenly between OP and his wife.

The Original Agreement

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OP and his wife have had an understanding since before their marriage: OP would give her half of what her parents provided monthly. Their agreement was based on the presumption that her parents would continue their financial support as long as she excelled in her studies. This arrangement lasted successfully for four years.

The Academic Downfall

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Unfortunately, midterm grades led to her parents cutting their financial support by half. While her academic performance isn’t dire, her parents uphold high standards, decreasing her monthly income. Maintaining his initial agreement, OP continues giving her the same amount, leaving her with the equivalent of minimum wage.

The Request

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His wife, unhappy with her reduced financial resources, urges OP to increase his contribution to her monthly allowance. However, OP refuses, reasoning that his income hasn’t grown and that he’s upholding their initial agreement. The problem, he contends, stems from her academic shortcomings.

The Stalemate

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Despite OP’s explanation, his wife insists it’s unfair, expecting him to provide for her as her husband. She proposes he reduces his share or increases the rent for his properties. However, OP adamantly refuses both suggestions.

The Ethical Stand

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His wife’s suggestion to increase the rent amidst ongoing socioeconomic uncertainty is met with staunch resistance from OP. He refuses to displace his tenants, showing a clear moral stand against capitalizing on their vulnerability.

The Unbearable Strain

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The financial dispute places an intense strain on their relationship. His wife’s insistence on financial assistance and OP’s steadfast refusal result in palpable tension. Their once harmonious arrangement now seems on the verge of collapse.

The Division Among Peers

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The couple’s disagreements spill over into their social circles, causing a divide. OP’s family supports him, seeing the fairness in his decisions, while their friends remain split, creating an additional layer of social pressure.

The Battle of Convictions

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OP struggles with his wife’s accusations of him being the bad guy. Even though he sympathizes with her situation, he stands his ground. He believes his refusal is justified, and his wife should take responsibility for her actions.

The Financial Barrier

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OP finds himself in a bind: increasing his wife’s allowance would mean sacrificing his share. This wouldn’t just affect his lifestyle but also his sense of self-worth. His refusal to give in to her demand is rooted in his desire to maintain some semblance of financial independence.

The Final Ultimatum

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His wife, fed up with the mounting tension, issues an ultimatum: either he increases his contribution, or she finds a part-time job. But OP knows a job would disrupt her studies and their son’s routine.

The Reconciliation Attempt

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OP proposes they cut back on non-essential expenses, allowing for a small increase in her allowance without affecting his share. The proposal serves as an olive branch, a gesture to compromise in the face of their escalating conflict.

The Uncertain Future

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While the couple attempts to navigate their financial predicament, their future remains uncertain. Will his wife’s grades improve, leading to the reinstatement of her full parental allowance? Or will they continue to battle, their relationship strained over disagreements about money and personal responsibilities?

Was The Husband’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts the story online for feedback. The readers in the community forum had a lot to say on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “Frankly, she’s an adult, and she’s lucky her parents and you are giving her anything. There are people out there studying, looking after children, and still must work.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “You never said you would pay her more if her parents would drop off their agreement. You are not a bank. You cannot just create money out of thin air.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “She has a nanny, she has parents who pay her to go to school, she has support from you, and that is still not enough? NOPE! Your wife needs to get over herself.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “She asked you to RAISE THE RENT on your residents to give her more pocket change because her parents are giving her less money due to her low grades.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.

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