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He Inherits Millions and Skimps on Bills, But His Secret Savings Account Could Cost Them More Than Money.

In this gripping tale, the Original Poster (OP) navigates the stormy seas of a relationship strained by an inheritance-induced financial imbalance. As tension escalates, revelations of hidden wealth, extravagant spending, and past misdeeds push their bond to the brink of collapse.

The Inheritance

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OP’s boyfriend inherited about $1 million following his mother’s untimely death. The windfall was a mix of cash and investments, a beacon of financial security in their lives. Yet, the money couldn’t replace the void left by his mother’s departure.

Struggles and Agreements

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Over the past decade, OP’s boyfriend faced recurring unemployment, causing financial strain in their lives. They agreed that he would contribute one-third of his take-home pay towards rent and utilities. Even during these challenging times, OP shouldered most of the financial responsibilities, including lending him her car.

Shifting Fortunes

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With newfound wealth, OP’s boyfriend’s financial situation drastically changed. As a result, OP requested him to shoulder a larger portion of the rent, an increase of $650. The proposal, however, led to a disagreement as he suggested contributing an extra $250 instead, leaving OP still covering $400 more than him.

The Costco Conundrum

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As the conflict over rent persisted, OP’s boyfriend voiced dissatisfaction over being the primary person shopping at Costco. He lamented his contributions, even as he made individual purchases like speakers and collectible boards. Despite his substantial inheritance, he often remarked, “I can’t afford that.”

Proposal and Projection

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OP, in response to her boyfriend’s claims of financial strain, proposed that he calculate the cost of living independently. She reasoned it would be approximately five times what he was currently contributing towards their shared expenses. The idea aimed to provide perspective on his contributions and expenditures.

A Lifestyle Subsidized

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OP began to perceive her boyfriend’s behavior as exploiting her financially to maintain his lifestyle. He showed little inclination towards contributing more, even though he now had the means, under the pretext that OP didn’t “need” the money. This sparked feelings of being taken for granted.

Dreams Deferred

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The financial imbalance put a strain on OP’s personal financial goals, including saving for retirement. The continuing imbalance hindered OP’s ability to accumulate savings. It led to a growing sense of resentment and frustration.

The Ultimatum

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In light of her boyfriend’s reluctance to contribute more to shared expenses, OP issued an ultimatum. If he was unwilling to pay his fair share, he should find his own place to live. This decisive move escalated the conflict further.

A Test of Love

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Despite their financial turmoil, the couple’s emotional bond is tested. Love and finances often make complex bedfellows, leading to more nuanced conflicts. Will the shared history and affection overcome their monetary dispute?

The Secret Bank Account

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OP discovers her boyfriend’s bank account balance, revealing a largely untouched portion of his inheritance. This hidden wealth strikes a painful blow, adding betrayal to the mix of their conflicts.

A Difficult Decision

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OP is left grappling with a critical decision – should she continue to tolerate her boyfriend’s financial inequity or walk away? The situation requires not only the weighing of financial matters but also her emotional well-being and future. OP wonders if she is in the right to expect her boyfriend to contribute more now that he received this inheritance.

Was The Woman’s Reaction Appropriate?

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The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responded

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One reader said, “Are you sure all these years he’s been as poor as he said, or has his mother been subsidizing him all along? With that much inheritance, it’s possible she’s been helping all along. He may see you as an easy way to save his own money whilst spending yours.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote: “Tell him certain things like Costco should be split equally; in fact, all the expenses should be, and starting next month, they will be. If he feels like he can’t afford to pay his share, then he should make other arrangements.

It seems harsh, but how long will you be able to continue to enjoy your relationship feeling like you’re being taken advantage of?”

A Third View On The Story

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A different person states, “OP, walk. He will obviously be just fine since he could literally go buy a house for cash tomorrow. You, on the other hand, will happily drain every penny if you let him. Isn’t years of mooching long enough? Are you really going to sacrifice your life for someone who has a million dollars but won’t contribute?”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

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