Immigrant Worked Hard to Rise, But When a Luxury House Came as a Wedding Gift, the Strings Attached Made Him Question Everything.

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From different backgrounds, the Original Poster (OP) and his wealthy fiancée attempt to merge their lives. But when her parents offer a generous wedding gift with strings attached, tensions rise to a fever pitch. Will the couple find common ground in a battle of principles, family dreams, and the complexities of love?

Different Beginnings

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OP immigrates to a new country at six years old and faces financial struggles while growing up. His parents prioritize education and dream of owning a home. Tragically, both parents pass away before achieving their dreams.

A Tragic Loss

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In the summer of 2020, OP’s 65-year-old mother tragically passes after a battle with Covid. Devastated by her loss and unable to have the large funeral she would have wanted, OP grieves his loss intensely for a few months before regaining control of his life and rejoining the dating pool.

The Meeting

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OP meets his future fiancée at their workplace, with both starting at the same position and time. They quickly develop a bond and begin dating. They are perfect examples of two individuals from contrasting backgrounds finding common ground.

A Gilded Life

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OP’s fiancée grew up wealthy, enjoying private education, designer clothes, and frequent luxury vacations. Despite her privileges, she is an intelligent and accomplished individual. Her parents provide for her education, but she earns her accolades independently.

Climbing the Ladder

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Both continue working at the same company, but OP advances faster, recognizing his luck and possible sexism in his promotions. This allows him to pay off his student loans and save for a down payment on a house, a tribute to his parents’ dream.

A Generous Offer

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During a visit to his fiancée’s family home, her parents make a grand gesture: gifting the couple a house for their wedding. It’s a surprising yet potentially joyous occasion for the couple. Her parents drive them to the house two blocks away to give them a tour.

Strings Attached

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The joy is short-lived as the details of the offer emerge. The house will be solely in the fiancée’s name, and her parents expect a prenup to protect her assets. This gift, seemingly generous, comes with conditions.

Pride and Principles

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Feeling insulted, OP stands his ground, not wanting to live in a house he doesn’t own, especially given his family history. His principles outweigh the allure of the luxury home as he insists that either both of their names are on the title or they cannot accept the gift.

Emotional Tensions

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The situation escalates with OP, his fiancée, and her parents all clashing. Old and new emotions surface, leading to a heated argument. OP’s dream of owning a house, influenced by his parents’ unfulfilled wishes, is a driving force in his life, rekindled by the situation.

A Relationship Tested

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The conflict strains OP and his fiancée’s relationship. Differences in their upbringing and values become more evident than ever. Confused and hurt, OP reaches out to his friends for perspective, asking if he’s in the wrong.

Shadows of the Past

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OP’s past experiences, especially the loss of his parents, shape his present decisions. Their dreams and struggles influence his feelings about the house. He feels he would disappoint them if he were to accept the generous offer as is.

United Front

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OP’s fiancée had been unaware of her parents’ conditions and is also taken aback and conflicted about the gift. Realizing they must address the issue together, OP and his fiancée decide to confront her parents. They stress the importance of unity and mutual respect in their marriage.

The Ultimatum

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The couple gives her parents an ultimatum: either gift the house to both of them without conditions, or they won’t accept it. It’s a risky move that could further strain their relationship with her family.

Was The Man’s Behavior Appropriate?

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Conflicted over how to proceed, OP posts his story online for feedback and advice. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “Honestly, I don’t think they’re terrible for wanting to give a nice gift but also ensure their investment goes to her in the event of a divorce.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “I get why it’s offensive, but you are not their child, and they are still giving you something big, as long as you don’t divorce their daughter.”

A Third View on The Story

A different person stated, “That is not a wedding gift. That is a bridal gift for the bride only. They aren’t giving the house to you as a couple. They are giving her a house and ensuring you get NO equity in it.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “It’s insulting that they wrapped it as a wedding gift, and it speaks to their prejudice against you, in my opinion. They could gift whatever they like to their daughter separately, and perhaps she can choose to rent it out for extra income that she can keep in her account.”