Father Insists Her Daughter and Boyfriend Can't Share a Room on Family Vacation, But the Boyfriend's Hidden Intent Could Rewrite His Rules.

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In an upcoming family vacation, the Original Poster (OP) triggers a disagreement when he insists that his 23-year-old daughter and her long-time boyfriend can’t share a room, stirring up tensions within the family. The conflict escalates as each party holds their ground, culminating in an unexpected proposal by the boyfriend during the holiday. What unfolds next has the potential to either salvage the joyous holiday or tear the family fabric apart.

Family Vacation Planning

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OP and his sister plan a grand family holiday in December, bringing together their respective families, including OP’s wife, two kids, and his daughter’s boyfriend of three years. The family is united, and everyone has accepted the boyfriend as part of the family. The vacation is intended as a joyful family gathering during the festive season.

A Sudden Twist

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While discussing the travel plans with his adult daughter, OP offers her two options for room sharing – either with her brother or two cousins. She is surprised by this and questions why she can’t stay with her boyfriend. This creates an unforeseen discord within the family.

Daughter’s Assertiveness

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His daughter believes that it is time for OP to accept that she and her boyfriend are adults and can share a room. She stands her ground firmly, setting the stage for a family conflict that has the potential to disrupt their eagerly anticipated vacation.

OP’s Stance

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OP asserts his decision, reminding his daughter that he’s funding the trip. He explains that they can’t share a room since she isn’t married to her boyfriend. OP’s viewpoint is that it’s a family trip, and certain traditional family values need to be respected.

Family Dynamics and Values

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OP anticipates his traditional parents and younger nieces and nephews being uncomfortable with the situation. He believes it’s inappropriate for unmarried couples to share a room, especially in a family setting.

An Ultimatum

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OP provides his daughter with an ultimatum – either pay for their own room or comply with the family rules. The tension escalates as OP insists on maintaining the traditional boundaries, causing further strain in the relationship with his daughter.

The Wife’s Agreement

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OP confides in his wife about the disagreement, to which she wholeheartedly agrees with his stance. Their unified front intensifies the conflict with their daughter, pushing the family dynamic toward a boiling point.

The Daughter’s Rebellion

Their daughter, however, is adamant and accuses them of treating her like a child. She disagrees with their conservative approach, leading to an intensified conflict. The family vacation, which was intended to be harmonious, is now at risk.

Sticking to the Rules

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OP reiterates that if he is paying for the vacation and they are not married, he will not permit his daughter to share a room with her boyfriend. His unwavering stance creates a deadlock situation, further complicating the family dynamics.

The Boyfriend’s Dilemma

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The daughter’s boyfriend struggles to find a solution that respects both OP’s stance and his relationship with the daughter. He grapples with the question of whether to intervene in the family conflict or to remain passive, risking either his relationship with the family or his girlfriend.

A Surprise Revelation

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Secretly, the daughter’s boyfriend has been planning a surprise for a special occasion. He contemplates whether this situation is the perfect moment for his plan. The tension between his girlfriend and her parents makes him doubt whether this is the right move.

The Secret Plan

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Without revealing his plan to anyone, the boyfriend decides to make the vacation extra special by proposing to his girlfriend in front of her entire family. His decision adds a new dimension to the conflict, transforming it from a straightforward disagreement into a complex family drama.

The Proposal Preparation

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Amid the tension, the boyfriend surprises everyone with his marriage proposal to OP’s daughter during the vacation. The family, taken aback by the unexpected proposal, is filled with joy and happiness.

Was The Father’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts his story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “The only thing you’re encouraging is for your daughter and her boyfriend to sneak into each other’s rooms during the trip, probably more likely of the brother or cousins getting an eyeful.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “In the future if you wonder why your daughter doesn’t come around anymore, this is why. You come off as controlling.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “She’s 23 and does not live with you. She’s definitely spent the night at his house. This isn’t some hookup. They are in a serious adult relationship.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Why does it matter to you what they do behind closed doors? She is an adult, and by doing this, you show her that you don’t take her and her three-year relationship seriously.”