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She Chose Her Nursing Duty Over Family Holiday Festivities, But the Support She Found From Her Mother-In-Law Became an Instant Family Legend.

In a family where Thanksgiving traditions run deep, the Original Poster (OP) is caught in a crossfire between family expectations and his wife’s professional commitments. When his father expresses discontent over her sporadic appearances due to her demanding job, tensions rise to a boiling point. The clash between family loyalty and professional dedication sets the stage for a dramatic holiday face-off.

A Special Tradition

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Thanksgiving held immense significance in OP’s family. Celebrations were grand, and every family member’s presence was keenly felt. However, OP’s wife, a dedicated pediatric nurse, often had commitments.

Every Other Year

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Working in a cancer ward demanded sacrifice, including working during holidays and weekends. OP’s wife could only make it every other Thanksgiving. Her dedication to her profession was unwavering.

Discontent Brews

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During a weekend chat, OP’s father expressed his dissatisfaction with his daughter’s work-life balance. He found it disrespectful that she only attended the family gathering half the time. In his view, family responsibilities should take priority over work obligations.

A Point of Agreement

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OP, hearing his father’s concerns, found himself nodding in agreement. Thanksgiving held memories, traditions, and connections for him. He believed his wife should prioritize their shared traditions.

A Tough Conversation

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Upon discussing the matter with his wife, she explained the challenges with her schedule. Prioritizing Thanksgiving could cost her Christmas. To her, Christmas held a charm that was impossible to relinquish.

Family Traditions Clashing

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While Thanksgiving was important to OP, Christmas was dear to his wife. In the heat of the conversation, OP remarked that his family’s traditions should hold precedence. His words stung, and she withdrew, choosing distance over an escalating argument.

Sharing with Parents

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OP, seeking validation, relayed the conversation to his parents over dinner one night. To his surprise, his mother’s reaction was explosive. It became evident that not all shared his father’s perspective.

A Mother’s Perspective

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Only OP’s father held the view of priority. On the other hand, his mother deemed OP’s words harsh and uncalled for. She believed the weight of work commitments was too heavy for judgments.

Making Amends

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Seeing the issue, OP’s mother took the initiative and reached out to OP’s wife, offering an olive branch and an apology. In her heart, she knew the difficult choices her daughter-in-law had to make when pulled in so many different directions.

Saving a Place

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Despite everything, family was essential. The gesture of saving a plate for OP’s wife at every event she was absent for was symbolic. A gesture that showed, despite disagreements, family ties remained intact.

Growing Resentment

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OP found himself irked with his mother’s actions when she didn’t take his side. He felt she shouldn’t interfere in his relationship or back his wife when he didn’t. However, her maternal instincts sought harmony.

Caught in the Middle

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OP’s wife, despite her dedication, found herself in a challenging position. Her commitments to her work, family, and husband’s expectations weighed her down. Finding a balance seemed impossible.

A Friend’s Intervention

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Upon hearing the story, OP’s friend didn’t mince words. He called out OP’s behavior, terming it inconsiderate considering the demanding workload his wife had. Sometimes, an external perspective offers clarity.

A Thanksgiving Quandary

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The holiday, meant for gratitude and unity, presented a dilemma for OP. Between his beliefs and those around him, the path to harmony seemed unclear. Thanksgiving this year, was more than just a celebration.

Was The Husband’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts his story online for feedback and perspective from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “Your wife works in a Pediatric. Cancer. Ward. She spent years in school to have a career where she lost so much of her personal time to care for dying children. And your dad somehow interprets this as being disrespectful? Thank goodness for your mom.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “Why would your family traditions take precedence over hers? You married HER. Why aren’t her traditions more important? When you get married, you compromise and accommodate each other. You’re insanely selfish, and it sounds like it comes from your dad.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “Why do you presume that your wife must take on YOUR family’s traditions? Why not hers? It wouldn’t be because she’s a woman, would it? I would certainly think not. You married a healthcare worker. They are hard-working and give up holidays for their work–it’s not an option.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “It is not like she is just blowing off the dinner to laze around the house or preventing you from going. Your mom is 100% right. Get in line.”

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