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She Pushed for Quality Time After Their Tumultuous Year, But His Devotion to the Rodeo Causes Her Dream to Dwindle.

In a quest for family bonding amidst life’s tumultuous events, the Original Poster (OP) is at odds with her husband over the importance of a long-overdue family vacation. As she grapples with a year marred by personal tragedies and milestones, her husband’s unwavering commitment to his local rodeo and family hunting trips stands as an immovable obstacle. The tension reaches its climax when potential compromises are met with staunch resistance, leaving their relationship hanging in the balance.

Longing for Family Time

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OP expresses a deep desire to have a family vacation, given they hadn’t had one in years and the challenges of the recent pandemic. Their children are growing up, and she feels the need to bond and make memories. Her husband seems resistant to the idea, prioritizing other events.

Clashing Priorities

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OP’s husband is deeply involved in organizing the local rodeo and has family hunting trips. He feels conflicted, believing that he may have to forgo these if he agrees to the family vacation. Tensions rise between the couple.

OP’s Stressed Year

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Teaching during the pandemic has left OP overwhelmed and stressed. The shifting expectations without clear guidance have made her job more challenging. She’s yearning for a break to refresh and recharge.

Life’s Ups and Downs

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From their daughter graduating to OP’s miscarriage, the family experienced highs and lows. Their oldest son got married, adding to the whirlwind of events. Amidst it all, there was no respite.

Lost Opportunities

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Neither OP nor her husband took any leisure breaks the previous year due to restrictions. The only significant time off her husband took was for their son’s wedding. Vacations were rare in their family.

The Distance Between Families

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For a decade, they lived close to OP’s husband’s family, and vacations were centered on visiting his kin. Now, living near his family for the past 11 years, her husband’s vacations are majorly for hunting and rodeos. The balance feels uneven to OP.

The Annual Rodeo

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OP’s husband uses a significant chunk of his annual leave for the rodeo. But for OP, it doesn’t feel like a vacation as he’s busy organizing, leaving little time for family. It’s a point of contention between them.

Missed Reservations

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OP discovers she can’t reserve their usual camping spot for the kids, which is deeply upsetting. The disappointment stings, further emphasizing the importance of timely planning. She wishes someone would help her organize these things.

A Plea for Compromise

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OP suggests her husband could reduce his time for the rodeo and hunting to accommodate a family vacation. She’s looking for a middle ground, hoping he’d see the value in spending time with the family.

All or Nothing

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Her husband’s response is unwavering. He perceives her suggestion as an ultimatum, saying it’s either all his planned events or none. Undeterred, OP proposes a shorter three-day vacation, hoping a mini vacation might be more acceptable and less disruptive to her husband’s plans.

Sharp Rebuff

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OP’s husband’s reaction is quick and dismissive. He offers a sarcastic retort about quitting everything to cater to her wishes. In a last-ditch effort, OP considers a simple weekend trip, but even this modest proposal meets resistance, causing more strain.

Rising Frustrations

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Every time OP brings up the topic, her husband’s anger flares. She feels trapped, longing for a break but facing unyielding opposition from the one man she wants to take the break with. She feels rejected and alone.

Reflections on Priorities

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OP struggles with her emotions, feeling like the family isn’t her husband’s priority. His commitment to the rodeo and hunting seems to overshadow her need for quality time together. She wonders if he still feels the same way about her.

Questioning Self

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Despite her strong feelings, OP wonders if she’s being unreasonable. Caught in a whirlwind of doubt, OP questions if her persistence is causing more harm than good. Perhaps she should take a vacation by herself.

Rodeo Vs. Family

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The rodeo, a significant part of her husband’s life, becomes the battleground. OP wishes he would see it from her perspective and understand her longing for family unity, but he is so caught up in his own desires he barely notices hers.

In Search of Balance

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OP yearns for a middle ground where family time and individual interests coexist harmoniously. She’s left in a dilemma, searching for a way to bridge the widening gap between her and her husband’s desires.

Was The Wife’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts her story online, seeking validation and feedback from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “You and your family must also relax. And it’s rather hypocritical for him to control what you do EVERY Year, but when you and your family want to do something, you’re the controlling one.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “I bet there are plenty of cool places you could go – as a family, within a couple of hours drive, for a Friday and Saturday night. Instead of one big family vacation, at least most of you could head out.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “Okay, they’re his vacation days to use as he wants, but it looks like he’s used them exclusively for him for years without a second thought about you and the kids.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Leave the kids with the husband and go on vacation alone or with a friend for a week. If he gets a week’s vacation a year to hang out with his friends and go hunting without the responsibility for the children, so should you.”

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