Her Children Wanted to Spend Time with Grandma, But a Harsh Reality Left the Entire Family in Shock.

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In a family drama shared by the Original Poster (OP), a tumultuous clash arises between the OP and her distant, hypocritical mother. The climax ignites when OP confronts her mother about her lack of involvement with her own children and grandchildren, leading to a boiling point at a family gathering. But, when their mother storms out in a fury, the family is left in disarray, uncertain of what the future holds.

Absent Grandmother

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OP’s sister had her first child, adding to their already diverse family dynamic where OP had two kids of her own, aged 6 and 9. Their mother was never the typical, involved grandmother, frequently refusing babysitting requests. Despite this, the family navigated around her inconsistencies.

Bad Mother

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In their childhood, the mother often left OP and her siblings with their grandparents, establishing a pattern of absenteeism. Even on holidays, they were sent away almost as soon as the break started and retrieved only a few days before school resumed. This un-motherly behavior caused frustration and disappointment.

Grandmotherly Help

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The root of OP’s annoyance was their mother’s hypocrisy. Every time she was asked to babysit, her response was a dismissive statement about having already raised her kids. This came off as hypocritical since she’d left OP and her siblings with their grandparents so frequently.

Meet the Baby

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Four months after the birth of her niece, OP’s family gathered for a meal where everyone had the chance to meet the new baby. It was a seemingly happy occasion, with family members all excited about the new addition.

A Simple Request

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As the family mingled, the sister asked their mother if she could babysit for an hour while she picked up her mother-in-law from the airport. Before their mother could respond with her usual refusal, OP and her siblings jumped in and finished the sentence for her, causing laughter.

Offended and Disrespected

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OP’s brother stepped in and offered to babysit, trying to diffuse the situation. They all thought the matter was resolved, but their mother felt offended and launched into a rant about disrespect.

An Opportunity to Bond

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In her confusion, the sister expressed her thoughts, saying she’d only thought their mother would want to bond with her granddaughter. In a moment of anger, OP retorted, revealing her belief that their mother hadn’t really raised them and wouldn’t want to spend time with their kids.

The Children Unite

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The mother took offense, accusing OP of ingratitude. OP’s older brother stepped in to clarify, arguing that they weren’t ungrateful, just acknowledging reality. This caused tensions to rise even further.

Shameful Behavior

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The argument escalated to the point where their mother stormed off, leaving the family in turmoil. OP’s father later intervened, criticizing them for shaming their mother about her unwillingness to babysit.

Seeking Judgment

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Confused and seeking clarity, OP turned to outside perspectives, asking if they were in the wrong for confronting their mother about her hypocrisy and her lack of involvement with their children. The family remained divided, with no resolution in sight.

The Forgotten Birthday

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Unexpectedly, amid all this turmoil, the grandparents forgot about the upcoming ninth birthday of OP’s oldest child, further straining family ties. OP had sent invitations out weeks ago and planned an extravagant event complete with a bouncy house and juggling act.

The Heated Exchange

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The forgotten birthday was the tipping point, leading to a confrontation between OP and her parents. It resulted in heated arguments about the difference in attention and care between her own children and the new baby, intensifying the existing conflict.

The Apology

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OP’s mother finally broke down and apologized, confessing her struggles with her own upbringing and how it affected her relationship with her children and grandchildren. This confession, while painful, marked a turning point in their family dynamics.

How to Move On

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The family was left in a state of uncertainty, unsure of how to proceed. Regardless, they were determined to work through their issues and build a healthier family dynamic for the sake of the children involved, with their mother promising to work on her behavior.

Was The Daughter’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts her story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “It is okay for people not to be natural caregivers. It is not to be a non-caregiver and want to be treated like the saint who sacrifices for everyone.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “She had all the help in the world when you were kids, and now, she’s acting as if you guys asking for help is entitlement, and it’s not.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “I am sorry for your kids and your nieces and nephews who will not get to experience a great bonding relationship with at least one of their grandparents since your mother is too selfish to decide those relationships are important to her.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “Your mom disrespected you by palming you off on your grandparents your whole lives. Although, I’m curious to know where your dad was and if you feel the same towards him.”