When the Original Poster (OP) announced her engagement to Kevin, she hoped for seamless integration of their worlds. However, her mother’s ‘brutal honesty’ soon became a source of tension, climaxing in a public mockery that threatens to exclude a family member from their upcoming wedding.
OP’s Special Announcement
OP, a 25-year-old Hispanic woman, joyfully announces her engagement to Kevin. With the wedding next month, she hopes her family will warmly welcome him into the fold. Initial interactions show her family adores Kevin, signaling a promising start.
The Brutally Honest Mother
OP describes her mother as someone who always speaks her mind, often with backhanded comments. While some see this as honesty, others find it hurtful. She can’t restrain her thoughts, making social situations tense.
Kevin’s First Impressions
Upon meeting Kevin, OP’s mother immediately has opinions from his car to his educational background. OP hopes her fiancé can weather this storm as her mother dishes out unsolicited and mostly negative critiques.
The Issue of the Hairless Face
One topic becomes a constant source of mockery: Kevin’s clean-shaven face. While OP’s mother may see her comments about his lack of beard as light teasing, Kevin, with his Irish origins, feels deeply hurt.
The Brother and Stepdad Join In
OP’s brother, stepdad, and uncle sometimes take part in teasing Kevin. OP’s 31-year-old brother would sometimes either brag about his goatee mustache in front of Kevin or tell an indirect silly joke about this topic which would irritate Kevin.
OP Takes a Stand
After witnessing her fiancé’s hurt feelings, OP confronts her mother. She emphasizes Kevin’s discomfort with the “unmanly” remarks. Though her mother defends her behavior as “just being honest,” she eventually apologizes.
A Time for Repentance
With the wedding drawing near, OP’s mother wants to make amends. She plans a dinner for the whole family, where she intends to give Kevin a special gift as a peace offering. OP remains hopeful.
A Gift to Remember
In front of the gathered family, Kevin is presented with a box from OP’s mother. She insists that he unveil its contents immediately. With everyone’s eyes on him, Kevin opens it to find shaving tools and cream.
Laughter and Humiliation
As Kevin stares at the gift, the room erupts in laughter. The stepdad parades the gift around, emphasizing the “joke,” while the brother joins in the mirth. Kevin’s face reddens in embarrassment as the public humiliation becomes too much to bear.
OP’s Furious Confrontation
OP’s fiancé abruptly stands and exits the room. Unable to contain her anger, OP challenges her mother on her cruel behavior, demanding an apology for Kevin. Her mother defends her actions as mere joking, causing the situation to escalate.
An Ultimatum Given
In her fury, OP issues an ultimatum: unless her mother apologizes, she won’t be invited to the wedding. The weight of the threat hangs in the air as OP leaves the gathering in pursuit of her fiancé.
The Sympathetic Partner
OP wouldn’t blame Kevin if he never wants to go to her mom’s house again. What happened at dinner got to him and hurt him deeply. He even blamed himself for why her mom feels this way about him and keeps asking her what he did to her to treat him like that.
The Aftermath and Calls
OP’s phone buzzes constantly after the incident. Her mother claims they overreacted, while her brother labels OP as “crazy.” They argue the incident was just a joke and shouldn’t spoil the upcoming wedding.
A Divided Family
OP is heartbroken and feels like an absolute failure for not doing enough to protect her fiancé from her mother, but she never thought she’d go this far. Tensions rise within the family as the sides become clear: those who stand with OP and Kevin and those who believe the incident was minor and should be forgotten.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
Frustrated and angry at how far out of control the situation had become, OP posts the story online for feedback and advice. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “The whole table laughed, and your brother doubled down that it was just a joke even after you explained why it wasn’t. I feel bad for your fiancé.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Good for you for standing up to her for Kevin. I also recommend you put a deadline by which you’re expecting the RSVP. It should be a proper apology at a family event before the wedding.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “I am sick of people using being ‘brutally honest’ as an excuse for being cruel and thoughtless. It’s pure laziness and unwillingness to improve as a person.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “You need to let them all know (not sure why you single her out since the rest are just as bad) that their behavior changes or you are cutting them off completely.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.