In a heartfelt revelation, the Original Poster (OP) delves into the strained relationship between his son, Jason, and granddaughter, Simone. As Jason climbs the career ladder, leaving Simone in OP’s care, tensions rise during a pivotal family gathering.
A Surprise Beginning
OP and Nina became pregnant with their son, Jason, at the age of twenty. It was unexpected, but they welcomed their son with love. They did their best to instill good values in him.
Jason’s Family Beginnings
Jason grew up, worked hard, and went to an elite university. He married Sara, and they had a daughter named Simone. Tragedy struck when Sara died in a car accident.
After Sara’s death, Jason took on the responsibility of raising Simone. However, when Simone turned four, things began to change. Jason met his second wife and made the choice to move away.
A Grandparents’ Duty
With Jason living two hours away, Simone came to live with OP and Nina. Jason’s visits were infrequent and often driven by his new wife’s encouragement.
Iris, The Stepmother
Iris, Jason’s second wife, was a caring and understanding woman. She often expressed the desire to have Simone live with them or for them to move closer. Jason, however, always found excuses rooted in his career.
An Adoring Daughter
Simone adored her father deeply. Her house was filled with drawings, cards, and treats meant for him. It pained her that he seemed so distant.
The Forgotten Birthday
On Simone’s birthday, her heart was broken when Jason didn’t call. Iris tried to console her with a lie about phone line issues. Simone, however, wasn’t convinced.
A Celebration at Jason’s
Jason, thriving in his career, invited OP and Nina to a party to celebrate a promotion. He proudly spoke of his achievements and the prestige of his alma mater, expecting praise from OP.
A Father’s Disappointment
Instead of congratulating Jason, OP expressed his deep disappointment in Jason’s neglect of Simone. To Jason’s surprise, Nina sided with OP. She, too, was concerned about Simone’s well-being.
The Family’s Critique
Many in the family believed OP and Nina were wrong in their approach. They argued that the timing and place were inappropriate. The consensus was that OP should’ve celebrated Jason’s achievements instead.
Family members reminded OP of his strained relationship with his own father. They felt he should empathize more with Jason. They believed that focusing on career stability was a plausible reason for Jason’s actions.
Jason was consistent with his child support payments. He believed that by doing so, his duties as a father were being fulfilled, absolving him of further responsibilities.
Therapy and Truth
Initially, Jason claimed he was attending therapy. Later, it was revealed that this was untrue. Meanwhile, Simone was seeing a child psychologist, though her sessions were more about school and friends.
A Resemblance Questioned
The idea was floated that Simone might remind Jason of Sara, thus being a painful memory. However, Simone bore a stronger resemblance to Nina, casting doubt on that theory.
The Core Issue
Despite all the discussions and theories, the crux of the issue became evident: Jason simply did not want to be a parent to Simone. His actions and choices consistently pointed toward this conclusion.
Amidst all the family drama, OP and Nina’s love and dedication to Simone never wavered. They continued to provide her with the love and support she desperately needed from her father.
Was Telling Her Son She Isn’t Proud Of Him Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “Thank goodness she has the love and support of her grandparents.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “There could be a lot of reasons he doesn’t want her living with him, but none of them are an excuse for him to practically pretend she doesn’t exist.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “You didn’t choose to bring it up at the party. Jason brought the topic up by putting you on the spot and asking if you’re proud of him. I would not back down on this.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “As far as I’m concerned, there’s never a viable excuse for child neglect. Your son essentially abandoned his daughter.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.