The Original Poster (OP) finds herself at the crossroads of family, morality, and finance when her estranged, trust-fund-reliant father re-enters her life. After years of abandonment and missed child support, her paternal grandparents learn about OP’s existence and gift her a significant sum, sparking a financial and emotional uproar. As OP grapples with her father’s pleas and newfound family ties, she must decide what to do with this life-altering amount of money.
The Trust Fund Father
OP’s father is a wealthy man, sustained by a trust fund. When her mother became pregnant, he wanted her to quit her job and be a stay-at-home mom. Her refusal led to their divorce shortly after OP was born.
Mom’s Standalone Strength
OP’s mother was left with very little due to an air-tight prenuptial agreement. Despite this, she succeeded in her profession and provided OP with a fulfilling childhood, never lacking in essentials or love.
The Supportive Maternal Grandparents
OP’s maternal grandparents were constant warm and loving figures in her life. They took her on adventurous trips to explore the wilds of Western Canada every summer and hosted all the family gatherings and celebrations.
Father’s Financial Evasion
Despite his wealth, OP’s father never paid the child support he was obligated to. This was not a hindrance, however, as OP’s mother earned a good income and, through hard work and dedication, provided for her every need.
The Union of Soulmates
OP met the love of her life at university. They’ve been together for eight years and are now planning to get married. Their love is strong, and OP references it playfully as a match made in “lobster” heaven.
Father’s Side of the Family
OP’s fiancé comes from the same city as her father, and due to interconnected relationships with his parents, OP’s paternal grandparents discover her existence and upcoming wedding. They never even knew their son’s first wife was pregnant.
Paternal Grandparents’ Reaction
Learning about their granddaughter and her father’s neglect, the paternal grandparents are furious. They can’t fathom why OP’s father abandoned his child when they themselves come from significant means.
The Calculated Gift
The paternal grandparents take action by calculating the amount of child support and educational fees their son should have paid. They present this sum to OP as a gift for her upcoming wedding to use however she sees fit.
A Blow to the Trust Fund
Unbeknownst to OP, the gift money is taken out of her father’s yearly draw from his trust fund, which significantly impacts his financial stability. He doesn’t have a regular job. He likes to invest in risky start-up opportunities, but most of his income is just from the trust fund.
OP’s father is furious about the monetary setback. The silver spoon is taken from his mouth. The significant reduction in his trust fund could force him to find full-time employment, a notion he finds appalling and below his societal standing.
The New Pressure Point
OP’s father reaches out to her, claiming that his current wife and children will face financial difficulties if she doesn’t return his money. He tries to guilt her into compliance. OP is now also in line to receive a trust fund from her paternal grandparents, which she feels entitled to keep as it was rightfully owed to her in the first place.
Mom’s Debt-Free Dream
OP wishes to use the newfound wealth to pay off any debts that her mother might have. She wants to ensure a comfortable and worry-free retirement for her mom. Despite the family drama and financial disputes, OP and her fiancé continue with their wedding plans.
The Arrival of Paternal Grandparents
OP’s paternal grandparents make the trip to Canada for the wedding. They are eager to meet OP and her fiancé and establish a relationship after years of absence. Even with the pressure from her father and the introduction of new family members, OP has no intentions of returning the money to her father.
Mother’s Secured Future
With the money from her paternal grandparents, OP can ensure that her mother will have a debt-free and luxurious retirement. The funds act as a poetic justice, balancing out the years of financial negligence by her father.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
Not willing to change her mind but curious as to what others think, OP posts her story online. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “It’s your grandparents’ money to use however they wish. They’ve decided to gift it to their grandchild, not their lazy son.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “That trust fund isn’t HIS money, it’s his parents’ money. They can give or take that any time they want. And they wanted to take it from him and give it to you. That’s 100% their right.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “They gave it freely. It is yours. If they could give it, it wasn’t his money to control where it goes anyway. That’s how a trust works.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “You and your mother more than deserve it! I applaud your grandparents for doing the right thing. They knew their son wouldn’t own up to his own failures, so they made him pay for it. They are brilliant.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.