When Maggie, the Original Poster’s (OP) sister, attempted to reconnect with her estranged birth father, John, on social media, an unexpected conversation about financial obligations and past responsibilities ensues. As stimulus checks from a global crisis become a point of contention, Maggie grapples with old wounds, conflicting emotions, and the weight of confronting a painful past.
An Unexpected Beginning
When Maggie and her twin brother were born, their birth father, John, who had an addiction to alcohol and pain killers, abandoned them and their mother. Their mother, left to handle everything independently, did not pursue child support or legal action.
A New Chapter
After enduring hardships raising her babies alone, Maggie’s mother met a kind-hearted man at work. They fell in love, dated for a year and then got married. The newlyweds had another child together.
Stepfather in Town
The mother’s husband became a generous and loving father figure to Maggie and her twin, providing the support and care they deserved. The family of five lived happily in a nice house with no shortage of friends.
Absence of Support
Despite the life they were building, Maggie’s mother never saw a cent of child support from John. He vanished without a trace, evading his responsibilities as a father. The mother never tried hard to find him, knowing he probably wouldn’t be able to contribute financially.
Years flew by, and the advent of social media brought unexpected opportunities. Maggie stumbled upon John’s profile on Facebook. To her astonishment, she found she had other half-siblings from John’s side.
Despite John’s history, Maggie reached out, hoping to bridge the gap, curious about who he was. They weren’t close, but she occasionally messaged him, sharing well wishes during birthdays and holidays.
A fragile connection, built on hope and curiosity, began to form between the estranged father and daughter. OP did not tell her mother or brother about her budding relationship, unsure how they would react.
An Unexpected Message
Amid global crises, stimulus checks were distributed to citizens. John, out of the blue, sent Maggie a cryptic message, hinting that her mother owed him gratitude. Confused, Maggie pressed for clarity.
John claimed their mother had received an extra $850 from his stimulus check. He bitterly linked this to an old grudge, claiming their mother had denied him access to his children, leading him to withhold financial support.
Setting the Record Straight
Maggie, taken aback, corrected him: their mother had received no such money. Whoever was sent the check wasn’t them, and it certainly wasn’t a favor. It was the government redirecting funds appropriately.
No Room for Gratitude
John’s demand for gratitude didn’t sit well with Maggie. She pointed out the responsibility a parent holds, irrespective of circumstances. Their mother had never spoken ill of him, but this did not absolve him of his past neglect.
Acknowledging the Struggle
Maggie recognized John’s battles with addiction and his time in jail but firmly believed these challenges did not excuse him from supporting his children. He could have made some show of effort over the last 30 years but never did.
The Final Retort
Tired of John’s excuses, Maggie told him not to expect appreciation from whichever child that money went toward. The government was penalizing him for not fulfilling his duties. There was no reason for anyone to thank him.
The Waiting Game
Time seemed to slow after Maggie voiced her feelings while waiting for a response or closure. Despite standing up for her beliefs, doubt began to creep into Maggie’s mind, making her question if she had been too harsh towards John.
Was The Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback and support from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “I don’t know where the $850 he thinks he deserved went, but without formal custody and child support order in place, nothing went to your mom.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “He didn’t pay anything for 30 years, and now suddenly wants thanks for supposedly giving $850? He was a sperm donor, that’s it.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “After he abandoned her and contributed nothing for 30 years, he had the nerve to ask for a thank you. She was polite about it, too.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “I’m 40 years old, and my mom got my deadbeat dad’s stimulus check. Spending that will be that much sweeter for her.”