In an attempt to navigate a weekend getaway with friends, the Original Poster (OP), dependent on her untrained emotional support dog, Lucy, to manage her CPTSD-induced night terrors, finds herself in the midst of an unexpected conflict.
Emotional Support in a Furry Form
OP has an emotional support dog named Lucy, who isn’t officially a trained service dog but is a great comfort to her. Lucy is particularly helpful at night, helping OP with her extreme night terrors due to CPTSD.
All The Difference
With Lucy, OP can manage to sleep normally, but without her, the nights turn disastrous. OP also points out that with Lucy’s help, it has been years since she has experienced the night terrors and that she really does make all the difference in her success.
Retreat to the Woods
A group of OP’s friends rents a large vacation house in the woods for a weekend getaway. The group consists of 10 people, including OP, who gets a ride with two of her friends who she’d previously been to a cabin with.
Because it wasn’t an issue in the past, she brings Lucy along. She assumes it would be alright as it was during their previous trip. She also looked at the rental listing, and the house is listed as pet-friendly.
The Unexpected Objection
Upon reaching the cabin, Jake’s girlfriend, Sandra, who OP is meeting for the first time, raises strong objections about Lucy’s presence. Sandra is allergic to dogs, hadn’t brought any allergy meds, and wasn’t informed about Lucy coming.
The Uncomfortable Compromise
OP offers a compromise to have Lucy stay on the patio until bedtime, but Sandra insists that the dog can’t be inside at all due to the open plan of the cabin. Caught in a bind, with no ride home and fearing the disturbance her night terrors might cause, OP agrees to keep Lucy on the patio overnight.
A Night of Discomfort
Lucy, unaccustomed to sleeping outside, is nervous about her unfamiliar surroundings in the woods. OP tries to sleep on the patio with Lucy but finds the cold and discomfort unbearable.
To Make Matters Worse
Lack of sleep can exacerbate her CPTSD symptoms. So OP makes an effort to get some rest. She eventually retreats inside, leaving Lucy alone on the patio in the cold.
A Nightmare Realized
Without Lucy to wake her up, OP’s night terror strikes, and she ends up waking the whole cabin with her screams. The group, already irritated by the dog debacle, is now subjected to the raw and terrifying reality of OP’s condition.
Dawn of a Troubled Morning
The next morning, the group’s frustration reaches a boiling point. They convene a group meeting and decide to vote OP out of the cabin, demanding that she leave immediately.
Long Ride Home
Instead of making a short trip to get medications for Jake’s girlfriend, one of the friends reluctantly drives her home. This creates a silent and awkward car ride for OP. Left to feel guilty and ashamed of her condition.
Ghosted by Friends
Once back home, OP sends apology texts to the group, only to be met with silence. This adds to OP’s isolation and regret, as she believes her actions might have cost her these friendships. She’s left questioning if she was at fault for bringing Lucy without explicit consent.
A Looming Consequence
OP’s actions, while not malicious, reveal a lack of communication which led to unforeseen repercussions. This raises concerns about the future of her friendships with the group.
Was Bringing Her Emotional Support Dog To A Cabin With Friends Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “Why are her allergies more important than OP’s mental health disorder?”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “You did your best with a horrible situation. Dump all those so-called “friends” and hopefully find people that are actually good friends.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “As a dog owner, who relies on their dog for their mental health, it was your responsibility to ensure that everyone knew you intended to bring a dog and find out of that was acceptable to all.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “You tried to be very accommodating once you knew of the allergy concerns, putting aside your own health and comfort. The way you were treated the following day, I think they owe you an apology.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.