A couple, the Original Poster (OP) and his wife plan for a month-long vacation from Japan to the United States, only to find their relationship tested by a disagreement over airline seats.
OP and his wife, both young and full of wanderlust, decide to travel from Japan to the United States for a month-long vacation. After booking their tickets, OP gets a chance to upgrade his seat to business class using his frequent flyer miles.
Despite his wife’s expectation to sit together during the 12-hour flight, OP chooses the upgrade anyway. He was looking forward to the upgrade for himself.
OP’s decision to upgrade causes a rift between the couple as his wife expresses her unhappiness about his choice. She feels he is choosing the business class experience over spending time with her, labeling his choice as rude. OP, however, sees this merely as a matter of comfort on an overnight flight.
Teasing Turns Tense
Trying to lighten the mood, OP teases his wife, suggesting that she’s merely jealous of his upgraded seat. Instead of diffusing the tension, this joke only escalates the conflict. The wife reacts with more anger, urging OP to request the airline to revert his seat to economy class.
Let’s Be Considerate
His wife feels like she has been cast aside while he takes the better seat. A trip that was supposed to be fun and filled with quality time has quickly become hostile.
Despite his wife’s dissatisfaction, OP refuses to downgrade his seat. He argues that he wouldn’t want to miss out on the luxurious experience of business class. He remains indifferent to his wife’s feelings, believing it’s not essential to sit together on a long flight.
ANA – The Room Reverie
As the disagreement continues, OP enthuses about the amenities offered by ANA’s business class, dubbed “The Room.” His excitement over the spacious seat, privacy, and high-end services underscores his determination to hold onto his upgrade.
A Moment of Uncertainty
OP briefly entertains the idea of possibly changing his seat if the situation worsens. He acknowledges that there’s still a week before their flight, leaving room for alterations if necessary.
With the ongoing dispute, OP turns to the internet for counsel, asking the age-old question, “Am I The Jerk?” He is met with instant backlash from most online users.
Without A Doubt
OP is berated by commenters saying harsh things about his marriage and the type of partner he is. Many even go as far as to say that he will be divorced and alone soon. This leaves OP with a lot to think about.
One of the internet users suggests an unexpected solution: OP should attempt to upgrade his wife’s seat, too, using any leftover miles. This suggestion seems promising, offering a potential way to reconcile the couple’s wishes.
No Extra Miles
OP checks his frequent flyer account only to discover that he doesn’t have enough miles left to upgrade his wife’s ticket. The miles also have to be used for him specifically, which makes him seem less at fault to most.
OP decides to purchase the upgrade for his wife’s seat, depleting a significant portion of their travel budget. He hopes this unexpected gesture will ease tensions between them both.
Was Only Upgrading His Seat To Business Class And Not His Wife’s Appropriate?
The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “You’re sending a message to your wife that you deserve all that, but she doesn’t.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote: “She anticipated being next to you for a 12-hour flight, which will involve both eating and sleeping, two activities that make people feel vulnerable. And you ditched her for business class.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person states, “ It’s miserable flying alone in economy on a flight that lasts over 10 hours. It would be a little more bearable to have your significant other next to you. Instead, you selfishly decided to upgrade yourself and not her.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another viewpoint on the story: “I would bet that this isn’t the first time you’ve neglected to think of her while making a decision for yourself to be nice and comfortable.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.