The relationship between a bride-to-be and her mother-in-law is often complex, but for the Original Poster (OP), it spirals into an unforeseen drama. As wedding plans unfold, financial troubles, unexpected cancellations, and a looming cruise trip build the tension to an all-time high. As the wedding day approaches, a decision must be made, testing family bonds and forcing confrontations.
The Blossoming Beginnings
OP and her husband were together for a year, but after her father’s unexpected passing, they went their separate ways. Four years later, an innocent message online leads them to choose to rekindle their romance.
A Special Proposal
On their second anniversary after getting back together, OP’s husband proposes. OP enthusiastically accepts and their journey to their big day begins. Both families seem to be on board with the wedding plans.
The excitement is palpable. OP’s family is deeply involved in the wedding plans. Even the mother-in-law (MIL) initially shows enthusiasm. The husband’s younger siblings are designated the flower girl and ring bearer.
A Sudden Hiccup
OP is excited about her upcoming dress appointments. However, a day before, she fractured her ankle. The appointments have to be rescheduled to a later date, coinciding with Easter and the flower girl’s birthday.
A Hint of MIL’s Discontent
OP learns that her MIL didn’t join the dress shopping due to an underlying reason. She didn’t want OP’s event to overshadow the flower girl’s birthday party. Signs of distance become apparent.
The New Love in MIL’s Life
When the MIL starts a new relationship, she becomes distant from OP and her son, wrapped up in spending all her time with her new man. The once-warm relationship with her son and his fiancée begins to cool.
The Guest List Dilemma
During a discussion about the wedding’s guest list, a contentious issue arises when OP’s husband let’s his mother know he invited her ex-husband, whom he sees as a father figure. The MIL’s disapproval is evident.
The MIL’s father intervenes and invites OP’s husband for a coffee chat in a thinly veiled attempt to persuade the couple not to invite the ex-husband. He argues that seeing her ex at her son’s wedding would be disrespectful to the MIL.
The MIL was in charge of paying for the rehearsal dinner. Yet, other than that, no one from her side contributes financially. In contrast, OP’s family is both financially and emotionally invested in the wedding.
MIL’s Change of Heart
Three weeks before the wedding, MIL drops a bombshell. She says she’ll only attend the ceremony. To avoid any confrontations on their special day, OP and her husband reluctantly agree.
The Rehearsal Dinner Disaster
Wedding week chaos ensues after the confrontation. OP calls to confirm the rehearsal dinner reservation, only to find out it’s been canceled and left unpaid. Suspicions about MIL’s intentions grow.
The Difficult Decision
Given the drama with the ex and the dinner fiasco, OP and her husband make a choice. They uninvite MIL from the wedding. They communicate their decision, leading to a heated exchange with MIL.
Screenshots and Severed Ties
The MIL vehemently denies the allegations and claims offense to their suggestion. She labels her son as ungrateful and cuts off communication. She shares their conversation, amplifying the tension.
The Cruise Revelation
A week after the wedding, OP discovers something shocking through mutual acquaintances. MIL had gone on a cruise with her boyfriend and his kids during the wedding weekend. And it wasn’t a last-minute plan.
OP, who works with MIL, finds out a startling detail. MIL had been talking about her trip scheduled during the wedding months in advance. It seems she never intended to be present for their special day.
Was The Bride’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback and perspective from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.
One reader said, “All she was contributing was the rehearsal dinner, which she bailed on and let you find out last minute. She obviously didn’t want to be near her ex, but without a valid reason, it wasn’t her place to decide.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “Let’s hope she stays as far from you and your husband as possible. Also, it’s a blessing in disguise that she went on the cruise. God only knows what drama she would have pulled had she been there for the wedding. You dodged a bullet.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “Your husband needs to sever all ties with her completely. She is an awful person, and your life would be better without her in it.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “Your MIL is truly petty. Cancelling the rehearsal dinner without telling you? And planning a trip that overlapped with your wedding, yet making you the bad guy to uninvite her for another reason?”