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She Thought Leaving Her Daughter with Mom Was Safe, But Her Mother’s Actions Banned Babysitting Time Forever.

In a desperate bid for a moment of tranquility, the Original Poster (OP) seeks the aid of her often-unreliable mother to babysit her toddler while grappling with financial constraints, an ailing husband, and her deteriorating health. The story climaxes when OP confronts her mother about her persistent unreliability after a day filled with delays and mounting frustrations. This confrontation opens the gates to family tensions and unspoken resentments, leaving readers eager to discover the aftermath.

A Much-Needed Respite

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OP and her husband had not been baby-free in months. Since the husband was a stay-at-home dad due to his disability and OP worked only a few hours per week, their budget did not allow them to afford a babysitter or daycare. Their toddler’s increasing crankiness frayed their nerves.

The Call for Help

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In desperate need of rest and quiet to recover from a terrible migraine, OP contacted her mother, the only family member within a two-hour radius capable of babysitting, to request a few hours of childcare. Despite her mother’s history of rarely being available, she agreed to look after the child.

The Nap Requirement

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OP’s mother insisted the child nap first, to which OP willingly agreed. After the toddler had slept for an hour, OP informed her mother they would arrive soon. Receiving a green light, OP prepared to drop off her child.

A Ray of Hope

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Upon arrival, OP’s mother called to say she needed to step out briefly but assured OP she could leave the child at her house as she had a key. OP, unwilling to leave her child home alone, decided to wait until her mother returned.

The Wait Begins

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OP calls her mother over the next few hours, who provides more excuses for the delay. From getting food to visiting a friend, her mother consistently sidesteps her commitment. Despite OP’s patience, the elusive babysitter remains unavailable.

A Wasted Day

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OP’s frustration peaked when she arrived at her mother’s house at 3:00 PM, only to find it empty. A video call revealed her mother was at someone else’s house but promised to return shortly. However, the mother did not return until 4:30 PM, effectively erasing any potential benefits of the intended respite.

A Heated Exchange

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With her migraine worsening and her child’s crankiness escalating, OP felt compelled to confront her mother about her unreliability. Despite her mother’s sarcastic apology, OP stood her ground, voicing her decision never to ask her to babysit again. This led to an argument, with OP ultimately leaving in frustration.

The Aftermath

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Later, OP received messages from her mother and stepfather accusing her of being overly harsh. Despite their claims that she was unfair and denying them a role in their granddaughter’s life, OP held firm in her stance.

The Paradox of Assistance

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While she was open to paying for babysitting, OP was trapped in a paradox – her mother insisted on family-based childcare yet was consistently unreliable, even in emergencies when she was desperately needed. Despite her mother’s argument that keeping the child within the family was safer, her actions did not match her words.

A Disabled Husband

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Due to recent medical scares related to his disability, leaving OP’s husband alone with the baby for a full workday was unsafe, forcing OP’s continued reliance on her mother. OP wished she had more reliable help and support from her family, but she had to work with what she had.

A Dual Role

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OP and her husband functioned as a tag team to manage their daughter’s care and household duties, carving out individual mini-breaks when possible. However, there was never a moment when their daughter was not within their hearing or line of sight.

The Inadequacy of Hours

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OP’s working hours, though minimal, were crucial in managing the family’s finances. However, the income was not enough to afford daycare. The dilemma left them dependent on OP’s mother without a viable alternative solution.

The Emotional Turmoil

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Despite the circumstances, OP remained aware that their daughter was their responsibility and was willing to provide without complaints. However, the need for occasional breaks was inevitable. While their love for their daughter was immeasurable, the strain became increasingly palpable.

Was The Mother’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posted her story online for feedback. The readers in the community forum had a lot to say on the matter. Here are some of their responses:

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “You said exactly what I would’ve said. I’m childfree and typically side with the family in these scenarios, but it’s too far to tell someone you’ll babysit repeatedly and then not be there when you say you will.”

Another Commenter Thinks

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Another responder wrote, “You spent the day in limbo because she didn’t stick to her word. It would have been better if she’d just said no. If she wants time with a grandchild, she must be reliable.”

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “She wants to be a part of his life but doesn’t support you properly when you desperately need it. She can’t make any demands when she is unwilling to step up in return.”

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader replied, “Try to find someone you can trust with the baby when needed. You can’t depend on her.”

What Do You Think?

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What are your thoughts on their actions?

What would you have done in this situation?

This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.

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