In a world painted with the vibrant hues of her favorite color, pink, the Original Poster (OP) finds herself at odds with a friend’s friend who criticizes her choice of color, personal style, and religious beliefs. The heated debate escalates to a public feud, peaking when OP’s love for pink sparks an unexpected online movement, challenging societal norms and personal judgments. But, as the controversy spreads like wildfire, will OP succumb to the pressure, or will she turn the tables?
Introduction to OP’s World
OP, an 18-year-old autistic woman, lives her life adorning the color pink – from her clothing to her room decor. She holds a profound love for the color, seeing it as an expression of herself rather than a statement for others.
OP incorporates pink into her beauty routine, sporting pink eyeshadow, pink nail polish, and occasionally a pink streak in her hair. She prefers to see the world through pink-colored glasses, finding the color comforting and aesthetically pleasing.
OP’s journey to find spiritual fulfillment leads her to contemplate converting from her Episcopal upbringing to Catholicism. However, her friend’s friend sharply criticizes her religious leanings, vociferously claiming Christianity to be a horrible religion.
Despite OP’s openness to religious discussions, she is taken aback by the level of intolerance spouted out by her friend’s friend. She does not understand why she is being targeted by the intense criticism of someone she hardly knows.
Misinterpretation of the Pink Affection
The friend’s friend further confuses OP’s love for pink as pandering to the male gaze. Despite OP’s attempts to explain that her choices are for her pleasure and not to attract male attention, her point falls on deaf ears.
Insults to Injury
The friend’s friend believes that OP doesn’t really like pink but uses it as a tool to appear more feminine and needs some help due to her autism to make better choices. OP is completely insulted and appalled at the insinuation. Who does this girl think she is to tear her life’s motivations apart with her surface-level judgments?
In an unexpected twist, the friend’s friend proposes a shopping trip. When OP state she can only afford to shop at Goodwill, the friend’s friend promises to cover the expenses if she could choose the clothing for her. She insists OP needs non-pink clothes for her upcoming 19th birthday party.
The friend’s friend makes an argument that OP appears too eager to look feminine, clad in all-pink. In response, OP stands up for herself, declining the shopping offer but agreeing to wear a non-pink top at least to the party if that would make her happy.
OP agrees to make a slight deviation from her pink wardrobe for the party. Instead of her usual pink attire, she decides to wear a faded black band t-shirt. Still, she maintains her identity by pairing the t-shirt with her favorite pink skirt.
Upon arrival at the party, the friend’s friend is livid at the sight of OP’s outfit. The band t-shirt features a faded red print that looks pink to her, inciting an angry response. She feels that OP has deliberately contravened their agreement and taken a petty dig at her.
After the party, the friend’s friend launches into a tirade via text, accusing OP of looking ridiculous and childish in her attire. She goes as far as to link OP’s liking for the misogynistic band to her alleged conservative nature. This, coupled with her love for pink and religious views, leads her to categorize OP as a conservative, despite OP’s liberal leanings.
Mutual Friend’s Intervention
A mutual friend steps into the scene, agreeing with the friend’s friend and accusing OP of being inconsiderate for wearing pink to the party. She suggests OP should have either purchased a new outfit or declined the invitation altogether.
A Hasty Conclusion
OP, feeling increasingly alienated and judged, makes the decision to cut communication short. She decides not to argue about the age appropriateness of pink. Instead, she chooses to ignore the barrage of text messages coming her way.
Was The Young Woman’s Behavior Appropriate?
OP posts her story online for feedback. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter. Here are some of their responses:
One reader said, “She picked a really bizarre hill to die on such that I don’t even know where to start. It’s kind of rude for her to project whatever she’s thinking about your style choices on you.”
Another Commenter Thinks
Another responder wrote, “That girl is NOT your friend. Every single thing she said and did in that story was awful. Drop her as a friend and go buy yourself a new pink shirt from Goodwill to celebrate your escape from her.”
A Third View on The Story
A different person stated, “You like pink? Wear pink. Other people don’t like you wearing pink? They have two problems: they don’t like it, and no one cares.”
A Final Perspective on the Matter
Another reader commented, “Tell your friend-of-a-friend that if she can’t keep her opinions to herself, she doesn’t need to be around you. Her criticism is a prime example of toxic femininity.”
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts on their actions?
What would you have done in this situation?
This story is inspired by a thread from an online forum.